The OTHER woman

There are plenty of ladies out there who play the role as the OTHER woman. Meaning, she is considered the "booty call" or "the side chick". Always second, never first. She doesn't get to spend holidays with the guy, share meaningful moments with him or meet his family. Some women like the title, others don't.

The ladies who like being the OTHER woman have a few reasons as to why (I got these answers from REAL people so please don't be upset with me): 1) They don't like the emotional attachment, 2) They are getting money from the man so as long as he is paying, they don't mind being a secret and 3) They like the "thrill" of being kept quiet.

Now, the ladies who have tried being the OTHER woman did not like it for the following reasons: 1) They got caught and their reputation was ruined, 2) They started catching feelings and the man did not feel the same way and 3) They were tired of being alone most of the time.

In my opinion, I think being the OTHER woman would be tough and would not work for me because I'm an affectionate person. When I start to love someone, I love hard and I want to tell the world about the person who has stolen my heart. I want that person to do the same for me and if he can't, he's out the door. I had a friend who was still in love with an ex boyfriend from Junior High. They ran into each other again when they were adults. This time, the ex boyfriend was married and had two children. He claimed to be "unhappily" married. He asked my friend out on a date and she accepted.....BIG MISTAKE!

One date turned into two dates. Two dates turned into him coming over. Him coming over turned into them making love. Them making love turned into him staying the night sometimes and telling his wife that he slept over his "brothers" house. She told me that on Sundays, she was not allowed to text him because Sundays were considered family day. She would anxiously wait until Monday to text or call him again. After 6pm on the weekdays, she could not text or contact him anymore because he would be at home with his family.

Everybody at her ex boyfriends job knew who my friend was. She even went out to eat with her ex and his employees at times. The ex boyfriend started planning his divorce with my friend........but his plans started to take too long to go into effect. My friend started to get impatient the more she started falling back in love with him. To make the long story short, my friend finally decided to stop talking to him. He's still married, claims he's "in love" with his wife and living happily ever after.

You're probably wondering where I am going with this. What I am trying to say is that it does not pay to be the other woman. You can either be someones priority, or someones mistake. KNOW YOUR WORTH!!!! Don't let someone disrespect you. Everybody deserves to be loved.......but to be someones 2nd option is not love sweetie. Think about it.......would the relationship REALLY work? Could you REALLY see yourself being put away and being wanted whenever HE felt like he wanted you? For those who are in that type of relationship, think about what's going to happen in the future. If you are willing to get your heart broken, go ahead. But know this; usually, the back burner girls usually don't get moved to the front. And if they do (which sometimes it happens), what makes you think he won't leave you for someone else? I hope this helps someone out there. Feel free to leave a comment or question below. I want to know what others think ;-)

-Markesha xoxo