How To Fix A Broken Heart

"A broken heart bleeds tears"

                                   -Steve Maraboli

Dealing with a break up or a divorce can be painful for most people. Sometimes, it could days, weeks, months or years to get over it. Do you want to know how to fix your broken heart, follow these steps and you will start to feel much better:

Let it all out: It's not good to bottle up your emotions. We all need that one day to let it all out. If you feel like crying, cry. If you feel like screaming, scream. If you feel like punching someone or something, get a punching bag ;-). Holding in those hurt emotions can lead to depression, anger and rejection. After you have let out your emotions, you start to feel a little better and ready to take the next step to get over the relationship or divorce.

Pray: You can do or get over anything with Gods help. Pray and ask God to heal your heart and to help you get over the bitter emotions. You can't heal your broken heart alone to spend time with God and allow him to help you along the way.

Spend time with friends and family who make you laugh: It's good to spend some time alone to collect your thoughts and think about what you have learned from the relationship; however, try to spend time with close friends and family who will keep a smile on your face. Laughter usually makes you forget why you were so upset in the first place.

Try something new: When dealing with a broken heart, try to pick up a new hobby or join a social club. That will keep your mind off the relationship and focus on something more positive.

It's not the end of the world: Just because the relationship or marriage did not work, know that it's not the end of the world. God brings people in and out of your life for a reason. Some people are put in your life for a season. You have learned something by being with them. Sometimes, it's best that the relationship did not work because there is someone out there BETTER for you. Try to look at the brighter side of things and not focus so much on the negative.

FORGIVE: There's a saying "forgive and you will be forgiven." How can we expect God to forgive us when we can't forgive other people? From my past experience with heartbreaks, I have learned that forgiving people that hurt you makes the healing process SO MUCH EASIER. I know it may be hard to do, but for your own sake, please do not hold grudges.

Keep a journal: It's easier for some people to get over a relationship or marriage by keeping a journal. Write down your emotions, prayer, etc in a book so that you may reflect back on them later.

Listen to music: Now, when I say listen to music, don't listen to those sad, depressing songs that won't make you feel better about the situation or "men/women" bashing songs. Listen to music that is uplifting. Worship music makes me feel a lot better in any situation.

I hope these tips help some of you mend a broken heart. Remember, life goes on, and so will you. Be blessed.

Making Good Habits, Breaking Bad Habits: Chapter 10

"God is excellent and we are created in his image; therefore, if we are to reach our full potential in him, we must also choose to be excellent." 

                                          -Joyce Meyer

Chapter 10 talks about excellence. We should strive for excellence when it comes to everything in our lives. Joyce Meyer explains the difference between being excellent and being perfect. If you are living your life trying to be perfect, you are going to end up disappointed, upset and miserable. One of the reasons why people procrastinate is because they are striving to be perfect. They hold off on doing a task because they want to make sure that they are doing is 100% perfect. Now, excellence is doing your very best, then allowing God to do the rest. Joyce Meyer gave the readers a couple of great ideas when starting to live an excellent life. One idea was to post the word "excellence" in 5 different places that you are around so that you can remind yourself to work on being excellent. The second idea was to wake up and say every single day "I do what I do with excellence." Starting tomorrow, I am going to apply both of those ideas to my life and see how much my attitude and my life changes. God has so many excellent plans for our lives so let's work on being excellent for him! 

If you haven't already. PLEASE buy this book! You won't be disappointed. 

-Markesha xoxo 

Making Good Habits, Breaking Bad Habits Chapter 9

"Now faith is the assurance of the things [we] hope for, being the proof of things [we] do not see and the conviction of their reality."

                                                                                  -Hebrews 11:1

We are halfway done with the book! I hope you all are getting something out of the book as much as I am. I can honestly say that I am working towards forming new habits in my life and getting rid of the things that cause me to have bad habits. I have faith that I will be able to break my bad habits......especially with the help from God. This brings us into our next chapter which is Behavior 6: The habit of faith.

We MUST have faith in all that we do!!! If you are trying to get a new job, you must believe that God is going to give you favor and provide you with a job you deserve. When we do not depend or trust in The Lord to bless us, we become stressed, filled with worries and hopeless. Remember, with God ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE. Joyce Meyer gives us two scriptures in this chapter that is a definition of faith: Hebrews 11:1 and Colossians 1:4. God wants us to have faith in him all the time. He loves you and he wants you to do his will. Instead of saying "Oh this is just too much for me" or "This is so difficult," start saying "This may be rough, but with Gods help, he will lead the way and I will have the victory." Speaking like this not only shows God that you trust him, you are also looking at the brighter side of things and makes you feel better mentally.

Some of you may know this story but for those who don't, in the book of Matthew, Chapter 14:22-23, it explains how disciple Peter said "Lord, if it's you, tell me to come to you on the water." The Lord told peter to "come" and as Peter was getting out of the boat and onto the water, he saw the wind, Peter became afraid and started to sink. He cried out "Lord, save me!"

Immediately Jesus reached out his hand and caught him. "You of little faith," he said, why did you doubt?"

And when they climbed into the boat, the wind died down. Then those who were in the boat worshiped him saying, "Truly you are the son of God."

God is able to do MORE than what we can imagine......we just need to trust in him. If you haven't put faith in The Lord, I challenge you to try it today. You will be amazed by the wonderful things God can do. As Joyce Meyer said "Taking action releases faith."

-Markesha xoxo

Making Good Habits, Breaking Bad Habits Chapter 8

"Happy is the man who finds wisdom, and the man who gains understanding."

                                                                                                -Proverbs 3:13 (NKJV)

Happiness begins with YOU! Yes, YOU! Not in other people, not in material things......it's all about YOU! In Chapter 8 of Joyce Meyers book "Making Good Habits, Breaking Bad Habits," She discusses the happy habit. Joyce Meyer explains that it is ultimately up to us if we want to live a happy life or not and how we need to learn how to smile and laugh, even in the midst of a storm.

I'm going to provide you with some quotes from this book but first I want to tell you guys what I have learned from this chapter. We can change our lives completely just by putting a smile on our faces. Instead of dwelling on the problems that we have in life, smile and know that hard times are never permanent. I am not saying to forget your problems completely, but learn how to look at the brighter side of things and do not let temporary frustrations get the best of you. I must admit, I tend to worry a lot and think about the issues that are going on in my life which results to me being upset and depressed.....NOT ANYMORE! God fights my battles so I keep my head up high and know that JOY and VICTORY is mine. If you are going through something, just smile and say to yourself that everything is going to be alright and see how the rest of your day gets better. God will never give you something that you can't handle so enjoy life and the blessings in front of you.

Another thing that I have learned from this chapter is to laugh more. If you have someone in your life that makes you laugh, keep them in your life and hang out with them more. Laughter is the best medicine and makes you forget what you were even worried about. Learn to laugh at yourself too. Too many of us are unhappy with our looks but if we learn to love who we are and know that we were made in Gods image, we will be at peace. I am so glad that Joyce Meyer discussed the happy habit because so many of us need to read this and change our lives. It's never too late to change and choose happiness over misery.

Joyce Meyer states in her book that happiness is a choice and a habit that we can develop. When you get up in the morning, we should say to ourselves that we have the power to make ourselves happy. The best quote in this chapter says "Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn't arrived yet. I have just one day, and I'm going to be happy in it." -Groucho Marx

Choose to live a happy life today. Focus on the good instead of the bad because what we focus on determines our feelings. I hope you enjoy this chapter. It was an eye opener for me.

-Markesha xoxo

Making Good Habits, Breaking Bad Habits Chapter 7

"It is important that you live long enough to do whatever it is God has assigned to you"

                                                                                            -Joyce Meyer

Chapter 7 of the book "Making Good Habits, Breaking Bad Habits" is my favorite so far. Joyce Meyer discusses forming healthy habits. It is very important that we take good care of our bodies because it adds more years to your life and it will not affect your life in a negative way. Your body is Gods house as he lives inside of  you so why would you put junk inside of it? 1 Corinthians 6:20 says, "You were bought with a price. So then, honor God and bring glory to him in your body."

Eating right, getting enough sleep and getting rid of stressful situations in your life are one of the most important habits to work on.  Creating a healthy habit should be one of the first things (besides building a personal relationship with God) you should do. When it comes to eating right, we must learn how to read labels and understand what we put into our body. Joyce Meyer explains that even though you may start out not liking some of the things you will need to do, eventually, you will become accustomed to them and you will crave them as much as you now dislike them. For example, if you hate to exercise, do it often enough where your body can't go a day without working out.

"Our bodies are not really all that intelligent. They just crave what we repeatedly give them. If it's bad, they will want what is bad, and if it's good, they will want that."

Getting rid of stress is something really important. Worry, anxiety and fear are major stresses, and we can eliminate them by trusting God and casting our care on him. Joyce Meyer explains that too much stress produces too much cortisol in our bodies and it's dangerous. If you do not know what cortisol is, I highly suggest that you look it up! Think of a few things that cause stress in your life and make the decision to get rid of them TODAY!

Getting enough sleep is another healthy habit to form. We should be getting 8 hours of sleep a night. So many people use the term "I'll sleep when I'm dead" or "They sleep, we grind" a lot and we need to understand that not getting enough sleep can shorten our lives and our brains do not function properly with limited sleep. Also, our bodies become unable to fight diseases when we don't get a lot of  sleep. It is commanded by the word of God that we get some rest. If it is your mission to honor God, GET YOUR REST ;-).

The book gives us 7 Pillars for good health so I recommend that you get this book and start reading TODAY. Also, I recommend that you get Joyce Meyers book "Look Great, Feel Great." I'm going to purchase that book myself and start posting health blogs about the book soon.

-Markesha xoxo

Making Good Habits, Breaking Bad Habits Chapter 6

"He (God) expects us to follow his word, his spirit, and his wisdom If we don't have peace about something, or it would not be wise to do it, then we should not do it."

                                                                                      -Joyce Meyer

Chapter 6 discusses being decisive. There are 3 types of decision makers: one who makes decisions too quickly, one who takes way too long to make a decision and the other person is one who doesn't make a decision at all. I would like to break down each category:

The Quick Decision Maker: One who really doesn't think about the pros and cons. Their decisions are rushed which sometimes leads to failure. I would highly suggest that if you are the quick decision maker, start asking God first as to what your option should be.....especially if the decision you are trying to make is a spiritual one.

The Slow Decision Maker: One who takes way too long to make a decision. The longer you take to make a decision, the more you are procrastinating on your task. As I advised the quick decision maker, as God what you should do. Joyce Meyer stated in her book "If after prayer and waiting we still feel that we have no direction, then it may mean that God is simply giving us the freedom to make our own choice." If the decision we made was a bad one, we can modify it as we go along.

The NO decision Maker: This individual makes no decisions at all. This person is usually miserable. I personally feel terrible when I don't make any kind of decisions. In Chapter 6, Joyce Meyer gives us reasons that a person may not make a decision at all. One of the reasons being is that person may be insecure about themselves and their abilities. Being insecure and scared is nothing but Satan. We must remember that if we have faith in God, we can do all things with his help. There are 4 others reasons why a person would be indecisive but I rather have you guys read the book ;-)

Joyce Meyer gives us instructions on how to make decisions: Make a list of your options, Weight the possible outcome and Acknowledge God. Here's a quote from her book that I am going to apply to my everyday life

"We should never make our plans and then pray for God to bless them. We should pray before any planning takes place. If the true desire of your heart is to follow God in all things, he will let you know one way or another if you are doing the right thing."

-Markesha xoxo

How Many Of Us Have Them.......FRIENDS!

"Encourage, lift and strengthen one another. For the positive energy spread to one will be felt by us all. For we are connected, one and all."

                                                                                            -Deborah Day


When you look up the word "friend" in the dictionary, you will find that the meaning of a friend is one who supports, sympathizes with, or patronizes a group or movement. A person whom one knows, likes and trusts. Noticed how I put the word "support" in bold print. Lets discuss being supportive friends.

When being involved with a person as a friend, family member or as a relationship, you are agreeing to support one another. That is something that I see lacking in friendships nowadays. Let's look at one example:

Rhonda is working on her career as a painter. She asked her friend Laura to come look at some of her paintings at her home, come to an art event for support and to promote her art to her friends. Laura is too "busy" to come look at her friend Rhondas paintings and has not showed up to an event; however, Laura is now working on her career in Journalism and expects Rhonda to support her all the way.

Why do we as "friends" expect so much from each other but don't do anything to support one another? There's a saying "You scratch my back, I'll scratch yours." I definitely believe in that statement. We must be willing to take a little time out of our busy lives to support one another in a positive way. Now, if you don't like what your friend is doing or if there is something that your friend could do better, be honest with them. That's what friends are for right?

Starting today, I want you all to say something nice or do something out of love for your friends. A little goes a long way. Encouragement, compliments, honesty and being reliable can make someones day a whole lot better. If you find yourself not doing any of these for a friend, you may want to make a slight change. Love your friends, go support.

-Markesha xoxo

Got Romance?

"The word 'Romance' according to the dictionary, means excitement, adventure, and something extremely real. Romance should last a lifetime."

                                                                                             -Billy Graham

So many relationships and marriages are lacking romance. Back in the days, it was all about showing how much you love and appreciate your other half. Now, the word "romance" is foreign. Did you know that marriages and relationships should have at least a night or two of romance on a regular basis? I think it's time to bring the love and excitement back in our relationships. If we can do that, so many marriages and relationships can be saved. Here are a few ideas for a perfect night with your babe.....and yes, these ideas will save some money in your pocket since I know we are living in a tough economic time:

1. If you have a back yard, plan a sexy picnic at night with a blanket, basket full of goodies (romance food), a bottle of Champagne, slow jams and relax under the stars.

2. Dress like you're going out, make a romantic dinner, light candles everywhere and dance the night away in your house.

3. Light candles everywhere in the house, make a rose pedal trail (you can buy the fake rose pedals at Walmart for no more than $10.00) all the way to the bathroom for a romantic bubble bath for two. Have  two glasses of Champagne or Wine sitting next to the tub. Of course play your favorite romance music.

4. Clean the bedroom, have it smelling nice, light candles, have rose pedals everywhere and relax in the bed with your mate. Ask questions.......it doesn't matter how long you and your mate have been together, you'll always find something out about your partner that you never knew. Make sure these are questions that won't start an argument. Things could get ugly LOL......real fast!

5. Go on a romantic drive. Park somewhere that you can view a beautiful scenery and snuggle while gazing at the stars. This could lead to a romantic talk all the way to sunrise.

6. Go to the beach (if you have one) at night and enjoy a night of cuddling, kissing, dancing and talking.

7. (I found this idea online) Spend a night in Italy. Rent an Italian movie, eat pizza, sip wine, and enjoy a bit of Gelato.

8. Make a play list on a CD, MP3, etc and play songs that remind you of when you met your sweetie. Songs that you guys used to dedicate to each other and relax at home cuddling.

I hope these ideas help you! If you have any ideas, please share them in the comment section below. I would love to hear your ideas. Blessings <3

-Markesha xoxo

The Fear Is Real

Many of us will miss out on so much in life because of these 3 reasons:

1. We are stubborn
2. We hold things back
3. We are afraid of what others might think or say

I'll be honest with you guys, I have missed out on a few great opportunities because I simply did not say what was on my heart. The fear of rejection kills me. This is something that I am working on. If you guys are confused on what I'm saying, here's a scenario:

Diana and Robert have been friends for a very long time. They feel as if they can tell each other anything. One day, Robert tells Diana that he feels empty at times. He's tired of being lonely and wishes that he had a significant other to build with. Someone to love, someone to start a family with. Diana has strong feelings for Robert but her fear of rejection is getting in the way of her expressing how she feels. Since Diana said nothing, Robert felt that she did not feel the same way. To make the long story short, Robert eventually found someone and it broke Diana's heart. If only she would have told him what's on her mind.....

We only live once. Why do we hold on to fear for so long to the point where it gets the best of us? Why are we so stuck in our ways? It's time for us to start sharing our feelings and not be afraid of what other people will say. If someone rejects you, you learn from it and move on. We won't know until we try right? Here is another scenario of what happens when we hold things back:

Tom and Lisa were in a relationship. Due to communication issues, the relationship fell apart. If something was bothering Lisa, she would hold it in until she got so upset, she exploded in anger. Tom was the same. You can tell that they clearly loved each other but their lack of communication kept them separated. They both love each other so much and they want to be back together, but here comes fear again. They are afraid of rejection.

I dare you guys to speak up and say something that has been on your mind to someone. I promise you that it will make you feel a whole lot better. Holding things in is like having too much air in a balloon, you'll eventually pop. Can you honestly say that you feel good when you hold your feelings back? I can't. I feel crummy when I do it. So from now on, I'm going to let go of fear and go after what I want. It doesn't have to be a relationship, it can be anything. A job, career, trying new things, trying new food. Go out there and live life. Don't let fear get in the way of anything. I hope this blog is a blessing to you as it is for me writing it. Much love <3.

-Markesha xoxo

What Would You Do With 10 Million Dollars?

"No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money."

                                                                                         -Matthew 6:24

So many of us think that money is everything. Some people say that money is their motivation. Some of us want what we see on TV which is the fast cars, big houses, fancy clothes and jewelry. When I asked a few of my friends if they were to win 10 million dollars right now, what would they do with it, I was told that they would buy a nice sports car, high priced electronics, take expensive trips and invest in a business. Sadly, no one said that they would give money to someone less fortunate or even to a charity. Yes, it's nice to reward yourself with nice things but we can't take any of these nice things to Heaven.

If I was to win 10 million dollars, I would take care of my debt, invest in my business and I would bless others or even a charity of my choice. I've always been the type to give back. I believe we're all called to do great things. I also believe that when we are called to do something, God is calling us to be a blessing in others lives. I can't stand to see someone outside holding up a sign or begging for money to get food. I always think to myself "That could be me." Bless, and you will be blessed. We cannot be stingy. Being stingy is not love. God is love.......and we should all try to be "Christ like."

I remember a song from the 90's called "C.R.E.A.M" which meant "Cash Rules Everything Around Me." It's funny because people still walk around saying that. Some of us are so tied up with trying to make a quick buck that we tend to forget the most important thing in life.......God. God is a jealous God. We sometimes think that if we had money, it would solve all of our problems; however, we tend to forget that God will supply all of our needs. God knows what we need before we even ask for it. In the book of Matthew chapter 6, it explains that we should not store up treasures on earth....for where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. There are things in my life that if I had a lot of money, it would solve some of my problems but then again, God is a problem solver.......I can cast my cares (problems) on him and he will take care of my needs. All we need to do is have faith in God (Mark 11:22).

We cannot get so tied up with being obsessed with money. If you really think about it, money does not solve all of your problems, God does. If we can get out of the "It's all about me and what I want" mindset and start to think "How can I bless others and live life to please God," we would be much happier. Money is temporary, God is forever.....

-Markesha xoxo

Making Good Habits, Breaking Bad Habits Chapter 5

"Thoughts and words are the starting point for forming all good habits and breaking all bad habits" 

                                                                                  -Joyce Meyer 


In Chapter 5 of Making Good Habits, Breaking Bad Habits, Joyce Meyer explains how our behavior can affect our thoughts, words and habits. What the think in our minds usually comes out of our mouths.

I'm going to give you guys an example. I usually post a blog every other day about this book. On Monday, I got real busy and did not have the time to post a blog for my readers. Tuesday is usually a day when I read another chapter and not post anything until the next day. Since I was too busy to post a blog on Monday, I can easily say, "You know what, I can just skip posting a blog for today or do it later in the week" or I can do it NOW (see last blog about chapter 4) to avoid procrastination. Me saying I'll do it another day could turn into holding it off work a week, 2 weeks or even longer. In order to make new habits, we need to be NOW people. Procrastinate no more. There is a statement in the book that I had to highlight and share with you.

"When you are trying to develop a good habit or break a bad one, always remember that words proceed action. Or, as I frequently say, where the mind goes, the man follows"

Joyce gave us an example in her book about a person who is in debt and is currently trying to get out of that situation. That person can think things like "I am so deeply in debt that I will never get all of my bills paid off." or "This situation I have is impossible to change, it is too late for me." People who think like this will start to say things like this. When you start thinking that something is impossible, quickly change your thinking to something positive and then speak it into existence. Say "Yes, I have a lot of debt; however, with Gods help, I can get out of debt as I cannot do this alone." See how easy that was? God always keeps his word. As Joyce Meyer said "God's word is always the same, and it has the power to change things.

Below is a scripture that we need to remember while we are trying to make or break bad habits:

2 Corinthians 10:5- Cast down, or refute wrong thoughts

Our thinking must change in order for our habits to change. Your life starts today..........start thinking and speaking positive.

-Markesha xoxo

Making Good Habits, Breaking Bad Habits Chapter 4

"I don't have a three-step magic formula that will change you overnight. But I can promise you don't have to be in bondage to anything if you truly want to be free."

                                                                                                            -Joyce Meyer

In Chapter 4, Joyce Meyer is discussing how breaking a bad

habit will not be done overnight. A lot of us want things to happen immediately but we must be patient and say to ourselves that it won't be easy but with Gods help, we can do it. Remember this verse while you are trying to break your habit, "I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength" (Philippians 4:13).

Joyce Meyer gives us a few steps that we should take as we try to break our habits. One of them being not to go out with friends and discuss how you are trying to break a bad habit and how difficult it is. Joyce thinks that we would be better off not talking about it at all unless it's with a really close friend, family and of course with God....people who are going to pray and encourage you. Not everyone is rooting for you.....remember that. Another tip Joyce gave us is not to say how difficult breaking the habit is. We must speak life into ourselves, not death. Say that you can do it with God's help.

I encourage you all to think of a prize or treat that you can award yourself once you break that habit. Mines is going to be a nice hair color and style at a salon if I can break my habit. While you're in the process of getting rid of that habit, replace the negative thinking with the prize you are going to award yourself. That will give you more motivation to go through with it. If you are consistent enough, you can break your habit within 30 days. In my opinion, that is quick! Don't forget, if you have a lot of bad habits, focus on one at a time. Don't overwork yourself. If you have 3 bad habits, think about it.......if it takes 30 days to get rid of one bad habit, you can break 3 bad habits in 90 days. Not bad ;-).

I want to share so much with you guys about chapter 4 but I want you guys to grab a copy and read for yourself. This is such an awesome book and worth the money! Before I end this blog, I want to share with you 5 things that Joyce Meyer wants us to do:

1. Start every day with God.........ask him for strength and guidance early each day.
2. Be very committed and ready to suffer for a season if necessary.
3. Be careful what you say about the habit.
4. Think positive, faith filled thoughts about your journey.
5. Believe even when you have not seen results.

Be blessed!

-Markesha xoxo

Making Good Habits, Breaking Bad Habits Chapter 3

"And He came out and went, as was His habit, to the mount of olives, and the disciples also followed him."

                                                                                                                 -Joyce Meyer

Chapter 2 discussed procrastination. In Chapter 3, we are learning about the good habit and spending time with God. A lot of us do not take time out of our day to pray to God unless we are going through tough times in our lives. Joyce Meyer stated that even though God is not mad at you for running to him only when you are in trouble, he is not pleased. That's like having a friend or family member who only contacts you when they need you for something. Once they have gotten what they wanted from you, you don't hear from them until they experience another issue. Without forming a habit of spending time with God in prayer and devotions, it is going to be difficult to form and other good habits.

God is not asking you to pray to him for 30 minutes to an hour; well, you can if you want but all he is asking for is your time. Try to take 10-15 minutes out of your morning after you get out of bed and pray. I personally pray for 10-15 minutes (sometimes longer) in the morning as soon as I get out of bed to thank him for waking me up, thanking him for what I have, my future blessings, I pray that I have a good day at work, etc. I dare you to try it too and see how better your day is.

"You have said, Seek my face [inquire for and require my presence as your vital need]. My heart says to you, your face, your presence, Lord will I seek, inquire for, and require [of necessity and on the authority of your word]"

                                                                                                    -Psalm 27:8

In order to do anything in life, we need God's help. Without him, nothing is possible. Every blessing you have came from The Lord. Joyce Meyer asked the readers if they are taking time to ask for his help before we begin our day, make decisions or undertake any endeavor. That should be one major rule in trying to form a good habit. Saying that we "don't have enough time for God" is a sorry excuse. When you take time out of your busy day to spend time with him, he will multiply your time. I am a living testimony of that. If you haven't been making time for God, I challenge you to do so and see how much your life changes---for good.

I highly suggest that you all purchase this book to read the rest of this chapter and the others as this is a book that is changing my life and helping me create good habits for myself.

-Markesha xoxo

Making Good Habits, Breaking Bad Habits Chapter 2

"What a curious phenomenon it is  that you can get men to die for the liberty of the world who will not make the little sacrifice that is needed to free themselves from their own individual bondage" 

                                                                                       -Joyce Meyer

In Chapter one, Joyce Meyer discussed how we should write a list of good habits that we need to create and breaking the bad habits, starting with the easiest ones first. In Chapter two, she discusses procrastination. The first thing she said in chapter 2 is "the biggest thief of success is procrastination."  That is true because even though we really want something to happen, you may not get to that destination of success if you tend to hold things off.

Joyce Meyer said something that really stuck with me in chapter 2. We all know that while we are working on getting to our goals, there will be some tough times and pain. A lot of us do not want to go through that pain in order to get to our final destination of freedom. We must sacrifice! Wow, isn't that the truth?!

I am going to quote a short story in Joyce Meyers book that I believe we all should read and really think about:

There were three demons who were graduating from their course on how to deceive people in the world and prevent them from knowing God. Satan was questioning each demon, and he asked each one how he would deceive people. The first one answered that he would tell people there was no god. Satan answered "You won't deceive many because most people deep down inside of them do believe God exist even if they have not chosen to follow him." The second demon said he would tell people that heaven and hell really didn't exist. Satan said "You will deceive a few more than your coworker, but you won't get many souls either." The third demon said that he would tell people that there was no hurry, and they could pull off the decision to follow God until another time. Satan got excited and said loudly "You will reap many souls for the kingdom of darkness by simply telling them to make the decision later."

See what I mean about procrastination??

Procrastination steals our time, our potential our self esteem and our piece of mind. It's a thief. Joyce Meyer stated that we have to become a "NOW" person. We must be aggressive in order to obtain those good habits that we want so much. When we put off a project or a task, it aggravates us. For example, you see a pile of dirty dishes in the sink. You were just in the middle of working on a project for school and decided to walk in the kitchen to get yourself a drink. When you come back from the kitchen, all you can think about now are those dirty dishes in the sink. The more you think about it, the more it bothers you. That's when the NOW person needs to step in. Get up, do the dishes while it is on your mind then get back to your project. If you would have said "You know what, i'll just do the dishes some other time," you would have been upset with yourself later because Just when you need to cook something or you come home from a hard days work and see those dishes still sitting there, you become upset. We must value our time, not waste it. Every minute that passes by, we never get that back so start becoming a NOW person and get to your destination......stop holding off your dreams until a later time.

I'll be posting a blog about chapter 3 real soon!

-Markesha xoxo

Two Can Play That Game

During last nights episode "Two can play that game" on Last Slice Radio, we discussed games men and women play in relationships, and how to get around them. I specifically mentioned certain types of guys and how to recognize them and their dating patterns. Here is the full list courtesy of "Love In 90 Days" by Diana Kirschner.

1. The savior

He is a super-duper caretaker, a Mr. Fix-It who tries to be romantic too. Your happiness is his happiness. And he doesn’t have much happiness of his own. Underneath it all he is insecure and feels not good enough — so he seems clingy and smothering.

What you should do

If you are firm and he realizes he has to find his own happiness and stand up for himself or lose you, he will step up. Over time he could evolve into a great partner!

2. The coward

He is afraid of honest straight talk and very afraid of conflict. If differences come up he pulls away and prefers to communicate by e-mail or texts.

What you should do

Many men have some degree of this pattern. You can break through by using positive talk, where you present your concerns in a loving, warm and clear way. Once you develop a way to navigate conflict, “the coward” can grow into a wonderful Mr. Right.

3.The super romantic flame-out

He is totally on your wavelength and crazy about you from the very first e-mail or glance at your photo. Chances are he is a serial monogamist who has brief periods of being in mad, passionate love with you, then the next, and the next one, following the path of chemistry, wherever it may lead.

What you should do

Take it slow and easy to make him prove himself. If he doesn’t, be ready to bail.

4. The grass-is-greener type

He has a hard time making up his mind, like he is never sure that the job he has is really the best one for him. Online dating has made this pattern very common. Because there is such a smorgasbord of women, men with this inclination are constantly looking to see whether they can do better.

What you should do

If he is very true to type, he will be mortally terrified of “settling” — as in, settling down with you. It is usually best to move on before he does.

5. The slacker

He has grand dreams and plans that have been just over the horizon for years. He may be cute and engaging as he passionately describes all that he is going to do. But this is the guy who consistently shoots himself in the foot so that he misses the finish line. He didn’t finish anything — not his degree, his new Web site, his new book, project or the very deal that will get him ahead.

What you should do

Unless he has started to seriously engage in therapy or coaching, you will not be able to rescue this guy. No, not even you.


~Mika J <3

Making Good Habits, Breaking Bad Habits Chapter 1

Hola ;-)

I am huge fan of Joyce Meyer and she recently came out with a book called "Making Good Habits, Breaking Bad Habits" which gives you 14 new behaviors that will energize your life. I'm going to read a chapter a day (well, I'll try if I'm not too busy) and blog about what I have learned. Per Joyce Meyer, good habits can be developed and any bad habit can be broken through repetition.

In chapter 1, Joyce Meyer advised that we should make a list of habits that we are trying to break or make. When making this list, do not attempt to break or make all of the habits that you have written down on a piece of paper. Also, start off with the smallest habit first. If you try to attempt to make or break all of your habits, it you fail, you will become frustrated and doubtful. Joyce Meyer also stated that if  you fail, don't give up! Keep trying until you make it.

The book also explains that when you concentrate on the good things you want, it helps you overcome the bad things that you no longer want to do. Romans 12:21 (in the Bible) states that we overcome evil with good. Joyce Meyers recommends that should be our scripture for this book journey so please try to remember that verse.

When trying to make or break your habit, please try to stay active. For example, if you are a nail biter, try to keep busy to avoid thinking about wanting to bite your nails. Joyce Meyer stated in the book that a man wore a rubber band around his wrist and when he had the urge to bite his nails, he would pop himself with the rubber band and he is no longer tempted to chew on his nails because of the pain he suffered. If you are trying to create a habit of cleaning your room everyday, one tool to help you is to set a reminder on your phone, computer, etc and try to avoid ignoring the reminder. Joyce also stated that a friend of hers had a habit of pressing the snooze button so many times, she was late for work the majority of the time. Now, she has her clock on the other side of the room so she has no choice but to get up and stay up.

In my opinion, this book is already amazing and I've only read one chapter. I am creating a list of habits that I want to make and break and I hope you all do it with me :-). I'll be posting a blog about chapter 2 tomorrow.

-Markesha xoxo

Who Inspires You?

"Good actions give strength to ourselves and inspire good actions in others."

                                                                                        -Plato

Everyone has, or should have someone in their life who they inspire. If you want to be successful, you must be surrounded by successful people. So who inspires you? Who makes you want to do better and become a better person? I had someone in my life who inspired, well, continues to inspire me. That person is my Grandma Weezie.

My grandmother was a wonderful woman. She made everyone who crossed paths with her feel important. She always had you laughing and kept a constant smile on her face.....even through the rough times. You never really knew if something was going on in her life because she never showed it. My grandma Weezie was apart of a lot of social clubs and worked at Mercy Hospital for 50+ years. She also served at her local church for 50+ years. She traveled and she loved all of her grandchildren to death!

My grandmother passed on March 12, 2013. I'm still hurt that she is gone but I know that she is in Heaven and no longer in pain. My grandma lived a very full life and inspired so many people......especially me. I am more determined than ever to follow my dreams and not give up because I know that this is something she would have wanted me to do. I am blessed to say that I had an angel in my life who lifted me up with I feel like I have failed and love me even when I made huge mistakes. As I get older, I want to be just like her and reach more goals then I could ever imagine.

When you have someone like that in your life, cherish them, learn from them because the things that they do can inspire you to do such great things. So.......who inspires you? Leave a comment below:

-Markesha xoxo

Reality TV: Make You or Break You

As we all know by now, reality TV is not so "real" anymore. Some of our favorite reality shows are staged or the producers will tell one person to confront the other to make good TV or drama. Fact of the matter is, reality TV will either make you or break you.

When you decide that you want to be on a reality TV show, you are agreeing to let millions of viewers into your life and to judge your character. For example, lets say a woman by the name of "Jenna" decided she wants to be on "The Real World." Cameras show her partying, fighting, sleeping with men, etc. Once that show is edited and aired, some people will look at her in a negative way because that's how she portrayed herself. Jenna is now upset of how people are treating her but she only has two people to blame: the producers who only show her wild side and herself. Don't put out what you don't want shown to several people.

So many people want their face known and want to be on a hit TV series but before you jump into something major, think of the pros and cons. Not everyone who has been on reality TV are frowned upon but think about it.......when you have someone on TV who isn't fighting, arguing and acting ratchet, what usually happens to them? You don't get that much TV time or you won't see them on season 2. They are considered "boring" or a waste of space. Now a days, it's all about the drama, the money and who gets the most attention. Some of the people who watch themselves on TV will either learn from their experience or feed off the attention. In the end, the get frustrated at all of the negativity. But again, they can't blame the audience.

If any of you are considering applying for a TV show, just make sure you keep things to yourself that you don't want put out there and most importantly, be yourself. There are a ton of critics out there. You can choose to ignore the comments or feed off of them. It's all about what you dish out.

-Markesha xoxo

Stop The Beef!

"It is wonderful how much time good people spend fighting the devil. If they would only expend the same amount of energy loving their fellow men, the devil would die in his own tracks of ennui." 
                                                                                                     -Helen Keller

Today, I was reading an article of how singers Ciara and Rihanna are throwing shots at each other. Ciara claims that she does not have beef with anybody; however she is not to be disrespected either. Ciara continues to say that she wishes Rihanna well and does not know what her problem is and that she (Rihanna) is nuts right now.

Someone posted that part of Ciara's interview on Instagram and told Rihanna about it. Under the photo Rihanna stated:

"How u gon hate from outside???"

"Thanks for the free promeaux sis!!"

"When will they start asking her questions about HER?"

Ciara then posted on Twitter the following:

"I am baffled. The obsession really makes no sense. This is getting out of hand..."

"Somebody please point her in the right direction, cuz she clearly needs love and affection...:)"

Nobody really knows what they are "beefing" about but them. If you ask me, it seems like Rihanna likes to beef with everybody. Every time I turn around, she has a problem with someone. I think she just needs to focus on herself and her career. Don't get me wrong, I love her as an artist; however, she needs to get it together. There is an old saying that I heard when I was a child that said "When you're not at peace with yourself, it's hard to have peace with others." I think this statement describes Rihanna.

I'm not saying that Ciara is just the victim because I honestly don't know who started it; but when have you seen ciara all over blogs and social media sites beefin with people other than Rihanna.........think about it. As women, we need to stick together and show much LOVE and appreciation. With shows such as "Bad Girls Club", "Basketball Wives" and other reality shows showing women fighting each other, we need to show the media and everyone else positivity. Women are not always fighting and hating each other.......we MUST show it.

I've said this during an interview with Mike El Beta and Luno on The Last Slice Radio (Aired 4/13/13), the music industry is in so much competition. Artists need to start supporting each other as they are all trying to reach the same goal......to be at the top. They are so involved with each others lives, they forgot that there are younger fans out there who look up to them and want to be them. They see all the negativity and imitate what they see. That's not what music is about.

I really hope that these women can get over their differences and find peace. Plus, Ciara's boyfriend Future is featured in a song with Rihanna......I bet he feels a little awkward. The beef must stop!

-Markesha xoxo

The User

"Sorry, I forgot that i only existed when you needed something"

                                                                          -Unknown


I think we can all agree when I say that all of us have been used before. Just knowing that someone only wants to be around you when they want something is horrible. So what do you know when you finally realize that you're someones "help?"

When I feel like I am being used by a friend, family member or lover, I first confront them. Tell them how I feel. If I don't see any changes in our relationship, I just kindly let that person go. What's the point of having someone in your life who keeps taking from you but you never receive anything back? Taking advantage of someone kindness is not acting out of love.......that is being pure selfish.

Wanna know how you can determine whether you are being used or not? Here are a few tips:

If in a relationship, if a guy or girl calls you after club hours trying to come over but they never want to see you in the daytime, you are being used.

If that person lives far away, has a car but when they want to see you, you're always the one driving out to see them, you are clearly being used. Someone who cares will either do the same for you or at least meets you half way.

If you are someones last option, you are being used.

If you are always giving that person gifts and you never get anything back, you are being used.

If you never hear from that person until they need a favor, you are being used.

KNOW YOUR WORTH! People will continue to use you because you let them. Don't let anyone, not even a friend or family member take your kindness for weakness. If you don't put your foot down, you'll continue to be someones door mat. Not only will you be looked at as the "Weakness Link", you will make yourself unhappy. Do yourself a favor and get rid of the dead weight in your life. I hope this helps someone in need of this message.

-Markesha xoxo

Be YOURSELF

"In a world full of carbon copies, I rather be an original"

                                                                                         -Markesha


So many people imitate what they see on TV. Now a days, everyone wants to be a Barbie, a Bad B*tch, Pop Mollies and Turn Up. What happened to being yourself? Now a days, young women want to be Strippers and Basketball Wives because that's what the media is flashing everywhere. No offense, but I don't want my daughter to come up to me and say "Mommy, I want to be a stripper when I grow up." Why doesn't the media show any educated women anymore? Why isn't there a reality show starring women who are successful and trying to do something positive? If there is a show out there like that currently, you can guarantee that it's not getting as many views as the other ratchet shows that we are viewing. I must admit, I have had my share of watching some of the reality TV shows and the fights but you can only deal with so much.

I'm glad that I stand out because I feel better when I am not doing what everyone else thinks is "in". There are so many talented individuals in the world who have so much to offer but waste it because they want to be like the next person. It's okay to have someone you look up to but if the person you look up to isn't giving back, showing positivity and teaching knowledge, why would you want that person to be your role model? I read a comment under a former "Bad Girls Club" cast members photo that stated "OMG, you are totally my role model. I look up to you." This reality show star was known for causing the most fights in the house and bullying people. Really???? She is your role model??? It's okay to promote violence on TV but let a show that involves kindness be premiered on TV, I'm sure it would be cancelled after 2 weeks.

What I'm basically trying to say is this.......be YOURSELF! We were all created with something special. Show it. Use your talents to help others and show your creativity. Stop trying to be what you see on TV and become who you were CALLED to be.

-Markesha xoxo

I Love Being A Mother

“In a child's eyes, a mother is a goddess. She can be glorious or terrible, benevolent or filled with wrath, but she commands love either way. I am convinced that this is the greatest power in the universe.”
― N.K. Jemisin

The other day, I posted a picture of my daughter and I. Beneath the picture, I wrote "I never knew what love was until God gave me a piece of heaven.....my daughter." It's crazy how a woman can carry a child for 9 months, deal with the pain of being kicked, contractions, morning sickness and labor and after that, get back to her daily duties. My daughter has been a blessing in my life. My life has changed in such a positive way. I have become more mature and more determined to follow my dreams. When I feel like giving up, I look at her and keep going because I know that she looks up to me and wants to do everything I do.

My daughter was born on my 21st birthday. While everyone goes out and parties when they hit 21, I was in the hospital about to go into labor. I wouldn't have it any other way though. Sharing my birthday with my daughter makes me feel really special and we have so much of a bond. I believe God blessed me with a child to give me responsibility because Lord knows how irresponsible I was before she came. I don't know where I would be if she (my daughter) wasn't around.

Being a parent is such a wonderful feeling. It's hard to explain. I could be upset throughout the entire day but when I pick my daughter up from school and see her smiley face, everything I was upset about is forgotten. I make sure I spend lots of quality time with her and teach her the facts of life so when she gets older, she will know right from wrong. A parents job is never done though.......As children get older, they start to experience life and sometimes make bad decisions. That's where us parents come in. To help them and teach them again.

As I am getting older, I am noticing that the younger generation is not being brought up how I was being raised. Things have definitely changed. Children went from playing Tag and Hide and Go Seek to Bullying, video taping fights and imitating what they see on TV. We as parents need to work harder as far as raising our kids. It is not the teachers, pastors or anyone else's responsibility to train up your child in the way they should go......that is all of YOUR responsibility. We need to stop letting our children watch so much TV and be more involved. I want my daughter to be the best and in order for her to be the best, someone has to be there and encourage her. That's where I come in.

My friends who don't have kids ask me how I cam manage being a full time employee, a mother and an entrepreneur. It's all about time management.....and being a super woman *wink* ;-). I wouldn't ask to be anything else than a mother. It makes me proud to know that I have a mini me who looks up to me. Makes me want to work 10 times as hard. When she gets older, I want her to say that the person who she looked up to the most was me. That would make my life completed. I can then give myself a pat on the back and say "job well done Markesha."

I love being a mother <3

Dress For Success!

“The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing. ”
― Walt Disney Company

So many of us want to be successful. As we're on that road to success, we must look the part. When you start dressing like you're serious about your business, other people will take you seriously too. There's nothing worse than someone saying that they are trying to become a Chef but they are wearing very dirty clothes and their hair isn't combed. I personally wouldn't go to that persons restaurant because if they can't keep themselves together, what would their business look like?

I'm not saying that you have to buy high priced clothing; however, I am saying to keep yourself polished. Make sure your hair is nicely combed, you have on clean clothing, your shoes are nice and add any type of accessories you want. If you're a man, make sure you are shaved and looking your best. I speak on behalf of the President of a multi million dollar company. No one sees me much but I still keep myself looking nice because you never know who you are going to run into. When I am out advertising Last Slice Radio, again, I keep myself looking really nice and professional. Doing that lets people know that you mean business.

Dressing professional not only lets people know that you are serious about what you are doing, it gives you self confidence. When I go to work, I put on my jewelery, my business clothes and my high heel stilettos. There's something about a nice pair of high heels that gives you so much confidence. Makes you feel like you can conquer anything you put your mind to.

In conclusion, there is nothing wrong with a sharp dressed man or woman. You gotta look, dress and feel the part. I wish all of you the best of luck! Go out there and conquer the world!

-Markesha xoxo

Times Change, Relationships Change

"People change over the years. That changes situations for good and for bad"

                                                                                             -Bobby Knight


The 90 day rule. Some of us have heard it from word of mouth or in movies. If you don't know what the 90 day rule is, it's when two people meet, get in a relationship and they only show their good side which only lasts for 90 days. After the 90 days, people tend to get comfortable with each other and start showing their other side. Sides of them that you never knew about and may not even like.

As the old saying goes, "Times change, people change." In relationships, why is that so? Why can't people be the same just like when they first met? The Honeymoon phase is what I call it. People tend to outgrow each other. For example, the older you get, your way of thinking changes. If one person is becoming more mature and the other is still living an immature life, that can separate the two and result in a break up or divorce. I highly suggest counseling if that starts to happen. Don't give up so easily on a relationship or marriage that you spent so much time investing. I don't know about you guys, but I hate starting over. I hate starting a new relationship by learning who they are, what they like to do, what are their goals, are their parents crazy, etc. If you really feel deep in your heart that you cannot be with your other half any longer and counseling won't work, just leave.

I have personally dealt with a relationship where I have grown spiritually in my walk with God as I have gotten older and the person I was with was refusing to go to church, wanted to drink, smoke and party every weekend. I wasn't into that type of stuff anymore. I sat down with him and told him that I'm not trying to stop him from having a good time; however, if he could at least meet me half way and go to church with me once a week, I would be fine with that. He refused to meet me half way so that showed me that we have taken two different paths in life as we got older and it was time to let it go. I was hurt about it, but in the end, I was at peace.

In relationships, we need to keep the fire going. Get that "old thang" back. When you start to see your relationship going in a downward spiral, make some changes. Do things that you used to do. If you used to dress up nice all the time when your other half was around, do it again. I'm sorry but your significant other does not want to see you scruffy 24 hours a day. Look nice for him or her. Plan date nights 1-2 times a week if you haven't been out with them in a while. Do something romantic without being asked......anything to let that person know that you are putting effort into something worth fighting for. When things don't go right, go left. Try to make a change for the better!

-Markesha xoxoxo

Let it go

 “The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”
― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

Letting go is one of the hardest things to do; however, it must be done. You will never see progress if you don't know how to forgive yourself or someone else. Think about it, how would you feel if you tried to love someone but they would not give you their all because of something that happened before you came along? Wouldn't you be upset? I know I would be. That's why we have to let go and move forward.

A few years ago, I used to hold on to past hurts and build walls around me so I could not get hurt again. I wouldn't let anyone get too close to me because every time I did, I would get my heart broken. I have been hurt by too many people who I thought I could trust so I wanted to make sure that never happened again. Little did I know, keeping baggage would not only hurt me, but it would hurt the one who tried to come close to me. I have let a few good guys go because of my insecurities and me not willing to let the past be the past......until one day, I was alone in my home and i started thinking.......a lot. I was wondering why I was so upset all the time. I did not feel good about my attitude. I finally realized that me holding onto something that is no longer there was bringing me down. In order for me to live a good life, I must forgive those who hurt me and start life all over again. Once I did that, I was a much happier person.

What would you rather do? Keep thinking about what "could have" been and be lonely for the rest of your life or look forward and get what's best for you? When you let go, it feels like so much weight has been lifted off of your back and you can potentially find the love of your life. Comparing an old relationship to something new never works. No one likes to be compared to someone else. You have to consider the other persons feelings.

In conclusion, we need to free our minds from all the clutter and make room for new experiences. Everyone who came into your life was there for a purpose. Learn something from it and move on to the next. I promise you that forgiving and forgetting is one of the best things you can do for yourself. Go out there and live life!

Hate on me hater

“The worst part of success is trying to find someone who is happy for you.”
― Bette Midler


We have all experienced hatred before. You either had a friend, family member or someone you don't even know criticize your success, something you are wearing, etc. Haters are people who have nothing else to do but talk bad about others and never have anything positive to say. Haters put others down to make themselves look better. Well, I'm here to tell you this.....

Do not allow someone to make you feel anything less than what you are. Turn the negatives into a positive. Haters appear when someone is doing something positive in lives. In my opinion, you haven't made it until you start getting haters. Not everyone is going to like what you do, how you do it or how you look so it doesn't matter what other people think. As long as you have love for yourself and love from people who really matter, everything else is not important. And even though people talk about you, you still have to love everyone......even if it's from a distance. The Bible says "Do everything out of love." In the end, you will get rewarded.

I have had several ladies in the past hate on me and I did not understand why; however, I continued to show love to everyone and in the end, I got good karma. Treat others how you would like to be treated. When you do that to people who hate you, it makes them look stupid and others will start to see who those haters really are.

Jealously, Envy, Hatred and Criticism are very ugly. If people would stop worrying about what others have and work on themselves, the world would be a much better place. I can't tell haters what do to but if you are jealous of someone, take a good look in the mirror at yourself and see what you need to change about yourself. Obviously, you are not happy with who you are so better yourself. We all need someone to look up to ;-). Hate on me hater....

When You're In Love...

"We are most alive when we're in love"

                                                        - John Updike


Love can make you do some crazy things. When you're in love, you feel like you're walking on cloud 9. You will go to the extreme for the person you care about the most. Some of you may not believe in love anymore because your heart has been broken too many times; However, there is someone for everyone and your soul mate is out there waiting for you.

Love happens when you least expect it. If you keep searching and being impatient about it, the longer it will take to meet your one true love. I wanted to take the time to explain this because I feel that some of us want to know what love really is. You never know, you might have someone in your life who's in love with you and you just haven't realized it.

When you are in love, you think about that person all the time. You want to spend every single moment with them and if you live far away, you are either willing to move to where they are or vice versa. If you get those butterflies in your stomach whenever you see a picture of them or in person......that's love. If you stop what you're doing to make time for them, even if it's for 5 minutes, that's love. A "Good Morning" text or "Goodnight" message that puts a smile on your face is another sign of love.

When two people really care about each other, there is nothing in this world that they would not do for each other. Love is not selfish. Love is also not impatient. For example, if you have a loved one away for college, true love waits until that individual is finished. Some people believe long distant relationships don't work but if two people are really meant for each other, they will do whatever it takes to keep the relationship strong and alive. Love sees no distance.

One important rule I must share is LOVE YOURSELF FIRST! It is impossible to love someone when you don't love yourself. If you have love for self, you'll know what love is all about and live a happy life <3.

-Markesha xoxo

 

The Blame Game

"Admitting that you are wrong is not showing a sign of weakness, it's showing a sign of responsibility and maturity" -Markesha

The Blame Game is something serious. When something goes wrong, some of us never like to confess to our mistakes. We are human. We all make a mistakes and when it happens, we need to learn from them and simply apologize. For example, I was working on someones account at work and thought I completed their adjustments. I get an email from another employee stating that I did not complete it and the customer was upset. I could have sworn I finished the adjustment but when I double checked, it wasn't. I completed the adjustment, responded to the other employees email and apologized. I could have easily responded to her email right away saying that I did but I really did make a mistake.

Some people don't like to admit to their wrongs because they feel like it's a sign of weakness. Nobody on this earth is perfect so what makes you think that you can't say sorry or correct your mistakes? Where would we be if this world was so perfect? Playing The Blame Game makes you look like a coward and shows irresponsibility. Every mistake you make is supposed to be a learning experience so in the future, if there was something that you did wrong, if it was cheating on someone, making a mistake at work, school, broke something at home, anything.......say you're sorry and please be sincere about it. There is nothing worse than getting an apology that is not sincere.

If you're not used to the word "Sorry" or "I made a mistake", yeah, it will feel funny for a moment but the more you say it, the more easier it becomes and you will feel better about yourself.

-Markesha xoxo

Worry About Nothing

"But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own."

                                                                                                  -Matthew 6:33-34


Now, this post isn't for everyone as I know there are people out there who do not believe that there is a God so I apologize in advance if this blog offends you; however, I felt as if I needed to post this so people who are going through something can at least have a piece of mind knowing that they are not the only ones who go through storms.

When it rains, it pours. A lot of us say that when we go through problems in life. Too many of us worry about the problems in our lives that's simply out of our control. But us being humans, we always try to figure things out on our own. The thing that we forget to do when the world seems like it's out to get us is run to God.

Worry about nothing. Instead, pray about everything. These are the words I said to myself this morning. Sometimes, the battle we face in life is not ours.....it belongs to God. We have to ask God to handle our battles and have faith to know that everything will be alright. God is bigger than any problems, sickness and disease. He is the author and the finisher. He is a miracle worker and we can all things through Christ who gives us strength. We need to stop worrying about things that are out of our control. God has our backs! Everything we go through in life has a purpose. God is trying to tell us something......one of the things he is trying to say is "trust me".

When we pray, and we give our worries to God, we should automatically be at peace. If you trust him with all of your heart, you should know that he will not give you something that you can't handle. There was a quote that I saw on a social network that said "God gives his toughest battles to his strongest soldiers." So I ask, what are you worried about?

I found a bookmark inside one of my grandmothers Bibles (Rest in Peace) and it says "How to use the Bible". It gives you scriptures to look up whenever you are going through something so I would like to share these with you so you can add them to your daily lives:

When in sorrow: Read John 14
When men fail you: Read Psalm 27
When you have sinned: Read Psalm 51
When you worry: Read Matthew 6:19-34
When you are in danger: Read Psalm 91
If you have the blues: Read Psalm 34
When God seems far away: Read Psalm 139
If you are discouraged: Read Isaiah 40
If you are lonely or fearful: Read Psalm 23
If you feel down and out: Read Romans 8:39
When you want courage for your task: Read Joshua 1
When the world seems bigger than God: Read Psalm 90
When you want rest and peace: Read Matthew 11:25-30
When leaving home for labor or travel: Read Psalm 107:23-31
If you get bitter or critical: Read 1st Corinthians 13
If thinking of investments and returns: Read Mark 10:17-31
For a great invitation--a great opportunity: Read Isaiah 55

I hope this blog helps someone out there who feel as if they can't handle any more stress. Remember, when in trouble, pray.

-Markesha xoxo