Making Good Habits, Breaking Bad Habits Chapter 2

"What a curious phenomenon it is  that you can get men to die for the liberty of the world who will not make the little sacrifice that is needed to free themselves from their own individual bondage" 

                                                                                       -Joyce Meyer

In Chapter one, Joyce Meyer discussed how we should write a list of good habits that we need to create and breaking the bad habits, starting with the easiest ones first. In Chapter two, she discusses procrastination. The first thing she said in chapter 2 is "the biggest thief of success is procrastination."  That is true because even though we really want something to happen, you may not get to that destination of success if you tend to hold things off.

Joyce Meyer said something that really stuck with me in chapter 2. We all know that while we are working on getting to our goals, there will be some tough times and pain. A lot of us do not want to go through that pain in order to get to our final destination of freedom. We must sacrifice! Wow, isn't that the truth?!

I am going to quote a short story in Joyce Meyers book that I believe we all should read and really think about:

There were three demons who were graduating from their course on how to deceive people in the world and prevent them from knowing God. Satan was questioning each demon, and he asked each one how he would deceive people. The first one answered that he would tell people there was no god. Satan answered "You won't deceive many because most people deep down inside of them do believe God exist even if they have not chosen to follow him." The second demon said he would tell people that heaven and hell really didn't exist. Satan said "You will deceive a few more than your coworker, but you won't get many souls either." The third demon said that he would tell people that there was no hurry, and they could pull off the decision to follow God until another time. Satan got excited and said loudly "You will reap many souls for the kingdom of darkness by simply telling them to make the decision later."

See what I mean about procrastination??

Procrastination steals our time, our potential our self esteem and our piece of mind. It's a thief. Joyce Meyer stated that we have to become a "NOW" person. We must be aggressive in order to obtain those good habits that we want so much. When we put off a project or a task, it aggravates us. For example, you see a pile of dirty dishes in the sink. You were just in the middle of working on a project for school and decided to walk in the kitchen to get yourself a drink. When you come back from the kitchen, all you can think about now are those dirty dishes in the sink. The more you think about it, the more it bothers you. That's when the NOW person needs to step in. Get up, do the dishes while it is on your mind then get back to your project. If you would have said "You know what, i'll just do the dishes some other time," you would have been upset with yourself later because Just when you need to cook something or you come home from a hard days work and see those dishes still sitting there, you become upset. We must value our time, not waste it. Every minute that passes by, we never get that back so start becoming a NOW person and get to your destination......stop holding off your dreams until a later time.

I'll be posting a blog about chapter 3 real soon!

-Markesha xoxo

Two Can Play That Game

During last nights episode "Two can play that game" on Last Slice Radio, we discussed games men and women play in relationships, and how to get around them. I specifically mentioned certain types of guys and how to recognize them and their dating patterns. Here is the full list courtesy of "Love In 90 Days" by Diana Kirschner.

1. The savior

He is a super-duper caretaker, a Mr. Fix-It who tries to be romantic too. Your happiness is his happiness. And he doesn’t have much happiness of his own. Underneath it all he is insecure and feels not good enough — so he seems clingy and smothering.

What you should do

If you are firm and he realizes he has to find his own happiness and stand up for himself or lose you, he will step up. Over time he could evolve into a great partner!

2. The coward

He is afraid of honest straight talk and very afraid of conflict. If differences come up he pulls away and prefers to communicate by e-mail or texts.

What you should do

Many men have some degree of this pattern. You can break through by using positive talk, where you present your concerns in a loving, warm and clear way. Once you develop a way to navigate conflict, “the coward” can grow into a wonderful Mr. Right.

3.The super romantic flame-out

He is totally on your wavelength and crazy about you from the very first e-mail or glance at your photo. Chances are he is a serial monogamist who has brief periods of being in mad, passionate love with you, then the next, and the next one, following the path of chemistry, wherever it may lead.

What you should do

Take it slow and easy to make him prove himself. If he doesn’t, be ready to bail.

4. The grass-is-greener type

He has a hard time making up his mind, like he is never sure that the job he has is really the best one for him. Online dating has made this pattern very common. Because there is such a smorgasbord of women, men with this inclination are constantly looking to see whether they can do better.

What you should do

If he is very true to type, he will be mortally terrified of “settling” — as in, settling down with you. It is usually best to move on before he does.

5. The slacker

He has grand dreams and plans that have been just over the horizon for years. He may be cute and engaging as he passionately describes all that he is going to do. But this is the guy who consistently shoots himself in the foot so that he misses the finish line. He didn’t finish anything — not his degree, his new Web site, his new book, project or the very deal that will get him ahead.

What you should do

Unless he has started to seriously engage in therapy or coaching, you will not be able to rescue this guy. No, not even you.


~Mika J <3

Making Good Habits, Breaking Bad Habits Chapter 1

Hola ;-)

I am huge fan of Joyce Meyer and she recently came out with a book called "Making Good Habits, Breaking Bad Habits" which gives you 14 new behaviors that will energize your life. I'm going to read a chapter a day (well, I'll try if I'm not too busy) and blog about what I have learned. Per Joyce Meyer, good habits can be developed and any bad habit can be broken through repetition.

In chapter 1, Joyce Meyer advised that we should make a list of habits that we are trying to break or make. When making this list, do not attempt to break or make all of the habits that you have written down on a piece of paper. Also, start off with the smallest habit first. If you try to attempt to make or break all of your habits, it you fail, you will become frustrated and doubtful. Joyce Meyer also stated that if  you fail, don't give up! Keep trying until you make it.

The book also explains that when you concentrate on the good things you want, it helps you overcome the bad things that you no longer want to do. Romans 12:21 (in the Bible) states that we overcome evil with good. Joyce Meyers recommends that should be our scripture for this book journey so please try to remember that verse.

When trying to make or break your habit, please try to stay active. For example, if you are a nail biter, try to keep busy to avoid thinking about wanting to bite your nails. Joyce Meyer stated in the book that a man wore a rubber band around his wrist and when he had the urge to bite his nails, he would pop himself with the rubber band and he is no longer tempted to chew on his nails because of the pain he suffered. If you are trying to create a habit of cleaning your room everyday, one tool to help you is to set a reminder on your phone, computer, etc and try to avoid ignoring the reminder. Joyce also stated that a friend of hers had a habit of pressing the snooze button so many times, she was late for work the majority of the time. Now, she has her clock on the other side of the room so she has no choice but to get up and stay up.

In my opinion, this book is already amazing and I've only read one chapter. I am creating a list of habits that I want to make and break and I hope you all do it with me :-). I'll be posting a blog about chapter 2 tomorrow.

-Markesha xoxo

Who Inspires You?

"Good actions give strength to ourselves and inspire good actions in others."

                                                                                        -Plato

Everyone has, or should have someone in their life who they inspire. If you want to be successful, you must be surrounded by successful people. So who inspires you? Who makes you want to do better and become a better person? I had someone in my life who inspired, well, continues to inspire me. That person is my Grandma Weezie.

My grandmother was a wonderful woman. She made everyone who crossed paths with her feel important. She always had you laughing and kept a constant smile on her face.....even through the rough times. You never really knew if something was going on in her life because she never showed it. My grandma Weezie was apart of a lot of social clubs and worked at Mercy Hospital for 50+ years. She also served at her local church for 50+ years. She traveled and she loved all of her grandchildren to death!

My grandmother passed on March 12, 2013. I'm still hurt that she is gone but I know that she is in Heaven and no longer in pain. My grandma lived a very full life and inspired so many people......especially me. I am more determined than ever to follow my dreams and not give up because I know that this is something she would have wanted me to do. I am blessed to say that I had an angel in my life who lifted me up with I feel like I have failed and love me even when I made huge mistakes. As I get older, I want to be just like her and reach more goals then I could ever imagine.

When you have someone like that in your life, cherish them, learn from them because the things that they do can inspire you to do such great things. So.......who inspires you? Leave a comment below:

-Markesha xoxo

Reality TV: Make You or Break You

As we all know by now, reality TV is not so "real" anymore. Some of our favorite reality shows are staged or the producers will tell one person to confront the other to make good TV or drama. Fact of the matter is, reality TV will either make you or break you.

When you decide that you want to be on a reality TV show, you are agreeing to let millions of viewers into your life and to judge your character. For example, lets say a woman by the name of "Jenna" decided she wants to be on "The Real World." Cameras show her partying, fighting, sleeping with men, etc. Once that show is edited and aired, some people will look at her in a negative way because that's how she portrayed herself. Jenna is now upset of how people are treating her but she only has two people to blame: the producers who only show her wild side and herself. Don't put out what you don't want shown to several people.

So many people want their face known and want to be on a hit TV series but before you jump into something major, think of the pros and cons. Not everyone who has been on reality TV are frowned upon but think about it.......when you have someone on TV who isn't fighting, arguing and acting ratchet, what usually happens to them? You don't get that much TV time or you won't see them on season 2. They are considered "boring" or a waste of space. Now a days, it's all about the drama, the money and who gets the most attention. Some of the people who watch themselves on TV will either learn from their experience or feed off the attention. In the end, the get frustrated at all of the negativity. But again, they can't blame the audience.

If any of you are considering applying for a TV show, just make sure you keep things to yourself that you don't want put out there and most importantly, be yourself. There are a ton of critics out there. You can choose to ignore the comments or feed off of them. It's all about what you dish out.

-Markesha xoxo

Stop The Beef!

"It is wonderful how much time good people spend fighting the devil. If they would only expend the same amount of energy loving their fellow men, the devil would die in his own tracks of ennui." 
                                                                                                     -Helen Keller

Today, I was reading an article of how singers Ciara and Rihanna are throwing shots at each other. Ciara claims that she does not have beef with anybody; however she is not to be disrespected either. Ciara continues to say that she wishes Rihanna well and does not know what her problem is and that she (Rihanna) is nuts right now.

Someone posted that part of Ciara's interview on Instagram and told Rihanna about it. Under the photo Rihanna stated:

"How u gon hate from outside???"

"Thanks for the free promeaux sis!!"

"When will they start asking her questions about HER?"

Ciara then posted on Twitter the following:

"I am baffled. The obsession really makes no sense. This is getting out of hand..."

"Somebody please point her in the right direction, cuz she clearly needs love and affection...:)"

Nobody really knows what they are "beefing" about but them. If you ask me, it seems like Rihanna likes to beef with everybody. Every time I turn around, she has a problem with someone. I think she just needs to focus on herself and her career. Don't get me wrong, I love her as an artist; however, she needs to get it together. There is an old saying that I heard when I was a child that said "When you're not at peace with yourself, it's hard to have peace with others." I think this statement describes Rihanna.

I'm not saying that Ciara is just the victim because I honestly don't know who started it; but when have you seen ciara all over blogs and social media sites beefin with people other than Rihanna.........think about it. As women, we need to stick together and show much LOVE and appreciation. With shows such as "Bad Girls Club", "Basketball Wives" and other reality shows showing women fighting each other, we need to show the media and everyone else positivity. Women are not always fighting and hating each other.......we MUST show it.

I've said this during an interview with Mike El Beta and Luno on The Last Slice Radio (Aired 4/13/13), the music industry is in so much competition. Artists need to start supporting each other as they are all trying to reach the same goal......to be at the top. They are so involved with each others lives, they forgot that there are younger fans out there who look up to them and want to be them. They see all the negativity and imitate what they see. That's not what music is about.

I really hope that these women can get over their differences and find peace. Plus, Ciara's boyfriend Future is featured in a song with Rihanna......I bet he feels a little awkward. The beef must stop!

-Markesha xoxo

The User

"Sorry, I forgot that i only existed when you needed something"

                                                                          -Unknown


I think we can all agree when I say that all of us have been used before. Just knowing that someone only wants to be around you when they want something is horrible. So what do you know when you finally realize that you're someones "help?"

When I feel like I am being used by a friend, family member or lover, I first confront them. Tell them how I feel. If I don't see any changes in our relationship, I just kindly let that person go. What's the point of having someone in your life who keeps taking from you but you never receive anything back? Taking advantage of someone kindness is not acting out of love.......that is being pure selfish.

Wanna know how you can determine whether you are being used or not? Here are a few tips:

If in a relationship, if a guy or girl calls you after club hours trying to come over but they never want to see you in the daytime, you are being used.

If that person lives far away, has a car but when they want to see you, you're always the one driving out to see them, you are clearly being used. Someone who cares will either do the same for you or at least meets you half way.

If you are someones last option, you are being used.

If you are always giving that person gifts and you never get anything back, you are being used.

If you never hear from that person until they need a favor, you are being used.

KNOW YOUR WORTH! People will continue to use you because you let them. Don't let anyone, not even a friend or family member take your kindness for weakness. If you don't put your foot down, you'll continue to be someones door mat. Not only will you be looked at as the "Weakness Link", you will make yourself unhappy. Do yourself a favor and get rid of the dead weight in your life. I hope this helps someone in need of this message.

-Markesha xoxo

Be YOURSELF

"In a world full of carbon copies, I rather be an original"

                                                                                         -Markesha


So many people imitate what they see on TV. Now a days, everyone wants to be a Barbie, a Bad B*tch, Pop Mollies and Turn Up. What happened to being yourself? Now a days, young women want to be Strippers and Basketball Wives because that's what the media is flashing everywhere. No offense, but I don't want my daughter to come up to me and say "Mommy, I want to be a stripper when I grow up." Why doesn't the media show any educated women anymore? Why isn't there a reality show starring women who are successful and trying to do something positive? If there is a show out there like that currently, you can guarantee that it's not getting as many views as the other ratchet shows that we are viewing. I must admit, I have had my share of watching some of the reality TV shows and the fights but you can only deal with so much.

I'm glad that I stand out because I feel better when I am not doing what everyone else thinks is "in". There are so many talented individuals in the world who have so much to offer but waste it because they want to be like the next person. It's okay to have someone you look up to but if the person you look up to isn't giving back, showing positivity and teaching knowledge, why would you want that person to be your role model? I read a comment under a former "Bad Girls Club" cast members photo that stated "OMG, you are totally my role model. I look up to you." This reality show star was known for causing the most fights in the house and bullying people. Really???? She is your role model??? It's okay to promote violence on TV but let a show that involves kindness be premiered on TV, I'm sure it would be cancelled after 2 weeks.

What I'm basically trying to say is this.......be YOURSELF! We were all created with something special. Show it. Use your talents to help others and show your creativity. Stop trying to be what you see on TV and become who you were CALLED to be.

-Markesha xoxo

I Love Being A Mother

“In a child's eyes, a mother is a goddess. She can be glorious or terrible, benevolent or filled with wrath, but she commands love either way. I am convinced that this is the greatest power in the universe.”
― N.K. Jemisin

The other day, I posted a picture of my daughter and I. Beneath the picture, I wrote "I never knew what love was until God gave me a piece of heaven.....my daughter." It's crazy how a woman can carry a child for 9 months, deal with the pain of being kicked, contractions, morning sickness and labor and after that, get back to her daily duties. My daughter has been a blessing in my life. My life has changed in such a positive way. I have become more mature and more determined to follow my dreams. When I feel like giving up, I look at her and keep going because I know that she looks up to me and wants to do everything I do.

My daughter was born on my 21st birthday. While everyone goes out and parties when they hit 21, I was in the hospital about to go into labor. I wouldn't have it any other way though. Sharing my birthday with my daughter makes me feel really special and we have so much of a bond. I believe God blessed me with a child to give me responsibility because Lord knows how irresponsible I was before she came. I don't know where I would be if she (my daughter) wasn't around.

Being a parent is such a wonderful feeling. It's hard to explain. I could be upset throughout the entire day but when I pick my daughter up from school and see her smiley face, everything I was upset about is forgotten. I make sure I spend lots of quality time with her and teach her the facts of life so when she gets older, she will know right from wrong. A parents job is never done though.......As children get older, they start to experience life and sometimes make bad decisions. That's where us parents come in. To help them and teach them again.

As I am getting older, I am noticing that the younger generation is not being brought up how I was being raised. Things have definitely changed. Children went from playing Tag and Hide and Go Seek to Bullying, video taping fights and imitating what they see on TV. We as parents need to work harder as far as raising our kids. It is not the teachers, pastors or anyone else's responsibility to train up your child in the way they should go......that is all of YOUR responsibility. We need to stop letting our children watch so much TV and be more involved. I want my daughter to be the best and in order for her to be the best, someone has to be there and encourage her. That's where I come in.

My friends who don't have kids ask me how I cam manage being a full time employee, a mother and an entrepreneur. It's all about time management.....and being a super woman *wink* ;-). I wouldn't ask to be anything else than a mother. It makes me proud to know that I have a mini me who looks up to me. Makes me want to work 10 times as hard. When she gets older, I want her to say that the person who she looked up to the most was me. That would make my life completed. I can then give myself a pat on the back and say "job well done Markesha."

I love being a mother <3

Dress For Success!

“The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing. ”
― Walt Disney Company

So many of us want to be successful. As we're on that road to success, we must look the part. When you start dressing like you're serious about your business, other people will take you seriously too. There's nothing worse than someone saying that they are trying to become a Chef but they are wearing very dirty clothes and their hair isn't combed. I personally wouldn't go to that persons restaurant because if they can't keep themselves together, what would their business look like?

I'm not saying that you have to buy high priced clothing; however, I am saying to keep yourself polished. Make sure your hair is nicely combed, you have on clean clothing, your shoes are nice and add any type of accessories you want. If you're a man, make sure you are shaved and looking your best. I speak on behalf of the President of a multi million dollar company. No one sees me much but I still keep myself looking nice because you never know who you are going to run into. When I am out advertising Last Slice Radio, again, I keep myself looking really nice and professional. Doing that lets people know that you mean business.

Dressing professional not only lets people know that you are serious about what you are doing, it gives you self confidence. When I go to work, I put on my jewelery, my business clothes and my high heel stilettos. There's something about a nice pair of high heels that gives you so much confidence. Makes you feel like you can conquer anything you put your mind to.

In conclusion, there is nothing wrong with a sharp dressed man or woman. You gotta look, dress and feel the part. I wish all of you the best of luck! Go out there and conquer the world!

-Markesha xoxo

Times Change, Relationships Change

"People change over the years. That changes situations for good and for bad"

                                                                                             -Bobby Knight


The 90 day rule. Some of us have heard it from word of mouth or in movies. If you don't know what the 90 day rule is, it's when two people meet, get in a relationship and they only show their good side which only lasts for 90 days. After the 90 days, people tend to get comfortable with each other and start showing their other side. Sides of them that you never knew about and may not even like.

As the old saying goes, "Times change, people change." In relationships, why is that so? Why can't people be the same just like when they first met? The Honeymoon phase is what I call it. People tend to outgrow each other. For example, the older you get, your way of thinking changes. If one person is becoming more mature and the other is still living an immature life, that can separate the two and result in a break up or divorce. I highly suggest counseling if that starts to happen. Don't give up so easily on a relationship or marriage that you spent so much time investing. I don't know about you guys, but I hate starting over. I hate starting a new relationship by learning who they are, what they like to do, what are their goals, are their parents crazy, etc. If you really feel deep in your heart that you cannot be with your other half any longer and counseling won't work, just leave.

I have personally dealt with a relationship where I have grown spiritually in my walk with God as I have gotten older and the person I was with was refusing to go to church, wanted to drink, smoke and party every weekend. I wasn't into that type of stuff anymore. I sat down with him and told him that I'm not trying to stop him from having a good time; however, if he could at least meet me half way and go to church with me once a week, I would be fine with that. He refused to meet me half way so that showed me that we have taken two different paths in life as we got older and it was time to let it go. I was hurt about it, but in the end, I was at peace.

In relationships, we need to keep the fire going. Get that "old thang" back. When you start to see your relationship going in a downward spiral, make some changes. Do things that you used to do. If you used to dress up nice all the time when your other half was around, do it again. I'm sorry but your significant other does not want to see you scruffy 24 hours a day. Look nice for him or her. Plan date nights 1-2 times a week if you haven't been out with them in a while. Do something romantic without being asked......anything to let that person know that you are putting effort into something worth fighting for. When things don't go right, go left. Try to make a change for the better!

-Markesha xoxoxo

Let it go

 “The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”
― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

Letting go is one of the hardest things to do; however, it must be done. You will never see progress if you don't know how to forgive yourself or someone else. Think about it, how would you feel if you tried to love someone but they would not give you their all because of something that happened before you came along? Wouldn't you be upset? I know I would be. That's why we have to let go and move forward.

A few years ago, I used to hold on to past hurts and build walls around me so I could not get hurt again. I wouldn't let anyone get too close to me because every time I did, I would get my heart broken. I have been hurt by too many people who I thought I could trust so I wanted to make sure that never happened again. Little did I know, keeping baggage would not only hurt me, but it would hurt the one who tried to come close to me. I have let a few good guys go because of my insecurities and me not willing to let the past be the past......until one day, I was alone in my home and i started thinking.......a lot. I was wondering why I was so upset all the time. I did not feel good about my attitude. I finally realized that me holding onto something that is no longer there was bringing me down. In order for me to live a good life, I must forgive those who hurt me and start life all over again. Once I did that, I was a much happier person.

What would you rather do? Keep thinking about what "could have" been and be lonely for the rest of your life or look forward and get what's best for you? When you let go, it feels like so much weight has been lifted off of your back and you can potentially find the love of your life. Comparing an old relationship to something new never works. No one likes to be compared to someone else. You have to consider the other persons feelings.

In conclusion, we need to free our minds from all the clutter and make room for new experiences. Everyone who came into your life was there for a purpose. Learn something from it and move on to the next. I promise you that forgiving and forgetting is one of the best things you can do for yourself. Go out there and live life!

Hate on me hater

“The worst part of success is trying to find someone who is happy for you.”
― Bette Midler


We have all experienced hatred before. You either had a friend, family member or someone you don't even know criticize your success, something you are wearing, etc. Haters are people who have nothing else to do but talk bad about others and never have anything positive to say. Haters put others down to make themselves look better. Well, I'm here to tell you this.....

Do not allow someone to make you feel anything less than what you are. Turn the negatives into a positive. Haters appear when someone is doing something positive in lives. In my opinion, you haven't made it until you start getting haters. Not everyone is going to like what you do, how you do it or how you look so it doesn't matter what other people think. As long as you have love for yourself and love from people who really matter, everything else is not important. And even though people talk about you, you still have to love everyone......even if it's from a distance. The Bible says "Do everything out of love." In the end, you will get rewarded.

I have had several ladies in the past hate on me and I did not understand why; however, I continued to show love to everyone and in the end, I got good karma. Treat others how you would like to be treated. When you do that to people who hate you, it makes them look stupid and others will start to see who those haters really are.

Jealously, Envy, Hatred and Criticism are very ugly. If people would stop worrying about what others have and work on themselves, the world would be a much better place. I can't tell haters what do to but if you are jealous of someone, take a good look in the mirror at yourself and see what you need to change about yourself. Obviously, you are not happy with who you are so better yourself. We all need someone to look up to ;-). Hate on me hater....

When You're In Love...

"We are most alive when we're in love"

                                                        - John Updike


Love can make you do some crazy things. When you're in love, you feel like you're walking on cloud 9. You will go to the extreme for the person you care about the most. Some of you may not believe in love anymore because your heart has been broken too many times; However, there is someone for everyone and your soul mate is out there waiting for you.

Love happens when you least expect it. If you keep searching and being impatient about it, the longer it will take to meet your one true love. I wanted to take the time to explain this because I feel that some of us want to know what love really is. You never know, you might have someone in your life who's in love with you and you just haven't realized it.

When you are in love, you think about that person all the time. You want to spend every single moment with them and if you live far away, you are either willing to move to where they are or vice versa. If you get those butterflies in your stomach whenever you see a picture of them or in person......that's love. If you stop what you're doing to make time for them, even if it's for 5 minutes, that's love. A "Good Morning" text or "Goodnight" message that puts a smile on your face is another sign of love.

When two people really care about each other, there is nothing in this world that they would not do for each other. Love is not selfish. Love is also not impatient. For example, if you have a loved one away for college, true love waits until that individual is finished. Some people believe long distant relationships don't work but if two people are really meant for each other, they will do whatever it takes to keep the relationship strong and alive. Love sees no distance.

One important rule I must share is LOVE YOURSELF FIRST! It is impossible to love someone when you don't love yourself. If you have love for self, you'll know what love is all about and live a happy life <3.

-Markesha xoxo

 

The Blame Game

"Admitting that you are wrong is not showing a sign of weakness, it's showing a sign of responsibility and maturity" -Markesha

The Blame Game is something serious. When something goes wrong, some of us never like to confess to our mistakes. We are human. We all make a mistakes and when it happens, we need to learn from them and simply apologize. For example, I was working on someones account at work and thought I completed their adjustments. I get an email from another employee stating that I did not complete it and the customer was upset. I could have sworn I finished the adjustment but when I double checked, it wasn't. I completed the adjustment, responded to the other employees email and apologized. I could have easily responded to her email right away saying that I did but I really did make a mistake.

Some people don't like to admit to their wrongs because they feel like it's a sign of weakness. Nobody on this earth is perfect so what makes you think that you can't say sorry or correct your mistakes? Where would we be if this world was so perfect? Playing The Blame Game makes you look like a coward and shows irresponsibility. Every mistake you make is supposed to be a learning experience so in the future, if there was something that you did wrong, if it was cheating on someone, making a mistake at work, school, broke something at home, anything.......say you're sorry and please be sincere about it. There is nothing worse than getting an apology that is not sincere.

If you're not used to the word "Sorry" or "I made a mistake", yeah, it will feel funny for a moment but the more you say it, the more easier it becomes and you will feel better about yourself.

-Markesha xoxo