How To Fix A Broken Heart

"A broken heart bleeds tears"

                                   -Steve Maraboli

Dealing with a break up or a divorce can be painful for most people. Sometimes, it could days, weeks, months or years to get over it. Do you want to know how to fix your broken heart, follow these steps and you will start to feel much better:

Let it all out: It's not good to bottle up your emotions. We all need that one day to let it all out. If you feel like crying, cry. If you feel like screaming, scream. If you feel like punching someone or something, get a punching bag ;-). Holding in those hurt emotions can lead to depression, anger and rejection. After you have let out your emotions, you start to feel a little better and ready to take the next step to get over the relationship or divorce.

Pray: You can do or get over anything with Gods help. Pray and ask God to heal your heart and to help you get over the bitter emotions. You can't heal your broken heart alone to spend time with God and allow him to help you along the way.

Spend time with friends and family who make you laugh: It's good to spend some time alone to collect your thoughts and think about what you have learned from the relationship; however, try to spend time with close friends and family who will keep a smile on your face. Laughter usually makes you forget why you were so upset in the first place.

Try something new: When dealing with a broken heart, try to pick up a new hobby or join a social club. That will keep your mind off the relationship and focus on something more positive.

It's not the end of the world: Just because the relationship or marriage did not work, know that it's not the end of the world. God brings people in and out of your life for a reason. Some people are put in your life for a season. You have learned something by being with them. Sometimes, it's best that the relationship did not work because there is someone out there BETTER for you. Try to look at the brighter side of things and not focus so much on the negative.

FORGIVE: There's a saying "forgive and you will be forgiven." How can we expect God to forgive us when we can't forgive other people? From my past experience with heartbreaks, I have learned that forgiving people that hurt you makes the healing process SO MUCH EASIER. I know it may be hard to do, but for your own sake, please do not hold grudges.

Keep a journal: It's easier for some people to get over a relationship or marriage by keeping a journal. Write down your emotions, prayer, etc in a book so that you may reflect back on them later.

Listen to music: Now, when I say listen to music, don't listen to those sad, depressing songs that won't make you feel better about the situation or "men/women" bashing songs. Listen to music that is uplifting. Worship music makes me feel a lot better in any situation.

I hope these tips help some of you mend a broken heart. Remember, life goes on, and so will you. Be blessed.

Making Good Habits, Breaking Bad Habits: Chapter 10

"God is excellent and we are created in his image; therefore, if we are to reach our full potential in him, we must also choose to be excellent." 

                                          -Joyce Meyer

Chapter 10 talks about excellence. We should strive for excellence when it comes to everything in our lives. Joyce Meyer explains the difference between being excellent and being perfect. If you are living your life trying to be perfect, you are going to end up disappointed, upset and miserable. One of the reasons why people procrastinate is because they are striving to be perfect. They hold off on doing a task because they want to make sure that they are doing is 100% perfect. Now, excellence is doing your very best, then allowing God to do the rest. Joyce Meyer gave the readers a couple of great ideas when starting to live an excellent life. One idea was to post the word "excellence" in 5 different places that you are around so that you can remind yourself to work on being excellent. The second idea was to wake up and say every single day "I do what I do with excellence." Starting tomorrow, I am going to apply both of those ideas to my life and see how much my attitude and my life changes. God has so many excellent plans for our lives so let's work on being excellent for him! 

If you haven't already. PLEASE buy this book! You won't be disappointed. 

-Markesha xoxo 

Making Good Habits, Breaking Bad Habits Chapter 9

"Now faith is the assurance of the things [we] hope for, being the proof of things [we] do not see and the conviction of their reality."

                                                                                  -Hebrews 11:1

We are halfway done with the book! I hope you all are getting something out of the book as much as I am. I can honestly say that I am working towards forming new habits in my life and getting rid of the things that cause me to have bad habits. I have faith that I will be able to break my bad habits......especially with the help from God. This brings us into our next chapter which is Behavior 6: The habit of faith.

We MUST have faith in all that we do!!! If you are trying to get a new job, you must believe that God is going to give you favor and provide you with a job you deserve. When we do not depend or trust in The Lord to bless us, we become stressed, filled with worries and hopeless. Remember, with God ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE. Joyce Meyer gives us two scriptures in this chapter that is a definition of faith: Hebrews 11:1 and Colossians 1:4. God wants us to have faith in him all the time. He loves you and he wants you to do his will. Instead of saying "Oh this is just too much for me" or "This is so difficult," start saying "This may be rough, but with Gods help, he will lead the way and I will have the victory." Speaking like this not only shows God that you trust him, you are also looking at the brighter side of things and makes you feel better mentally.

Some of you may know this story but for those who don't, in the book of Matthew, Chapter 14:22-23, it explains how disciple Peter said "Lord, if it's you, tell me to come to you on the water." The Lord told peter to "come" and as Peter was getting out of the boat and onto the water, he saw the wind, Peter became afraid and started to sink. He cried out "Lord, save me!"

Immediately Jesus reached out his hand and caught him. "You of little faith," he said, why did you doubt?"

And when they climbed into the boat, the wind died down. Then those who were in the boat worshiped him saying, "Truly you are the son of God."

God is able to do MORE than what we can imagine......we just need to trust in him. If you haven't put faith in The Lord, I challenge you to try it today. You will be amazed by the wonderful things God can do. As Joyce Meyer said "Taking action releases faith."

-Markesha xoxo

Making Good Habits, Breaking Bad Habits Chapter 8

"Happy is the man who finds wisdom, and the man who gains understanding."

                                                                                                -Proverbs 3:13 (NKJV)

Happiness begins with YOU! Yes, YOU! Not in other people, not in material things......it's all about YOU! In Chapter 8 of Joyce Meyers book "Making Good Habits, Breaking Bad Habits," She discusses the happy habit. Joyce Meyer explains that it is ultimately up to us if we want to live a happy life or not and how we need to learn how to smile and laugh, even in the midst of a storm.

I'm going to provide you with some quotes from this book but first I want to tell you guys what I have learned from this chapter. We can change our lives completely just by putting a smile on our faces. Instead of dwelling on the problems that we have in life, smile and know that hard times are never permanent. I am not saying to forget your problems completely, but learn how to look at the brighter side of things and do not let temporary frustrations get the best of you. I must admit, I tend to worry a lot and think about the issues that are going on in my life which results to me being upset and depressed.....NOT ANYMORE! God fights my battles so I keep my head up high and know that JOY and VICTORY is mine. If you are going through something, just smile and say to yourself that everything is going to be alright and see how the rest of your day gets better. God will never give you something that you can't handle so enjoy life and the blessings in front of you.

Another thing that I have learned from this chapter is to laugh more. If you have someone in your life that makes you laugh, keep them in your life and hang out with them more. Laughter is the best medicine and makes you forget what you were even worried about. Learn to laugh at yourself too. Too many of us are unhappy with our looks but if we learn to love who we are and know that we were made in Gods image, we will be at peace. I am so glad that Joyce Meyer discussed the happy habit because so many of us need to read this and change our lives. It's never too late to change and choose happiness over misery.

Joyce Meyer states in her book that happiness is a choice and a habit that we can develop. When you get up in the morning, we should say to ourselves that we have the power to make ourselves happy. The best quote in this chapter says "Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn't arrived yet. I have just one day, and I'm going to be happy in it." -Groucho Marx

Choose to live a happy life today. Focus on the good instead of the bad because what we focus on determines our feelings. I hope you enjoy this chapter. It was an eye opener for me.

-Markesha xoxo

Making Good Habits, Breaking Bad Habits Chapter 7

"It is important that you live long enough to do whatever it is God has assigned to you"

                                                                                            -Joyce Meyer

Chapter 7 of the book "Making Good Habits, Breaking Bad Habits" is my favorite so far. Joyce Meyer discusses forming healthy habits. It is very important that we take good care of our bodies because it adds more years to your life and it will not affect your life in a negative way. Your body is Gods house as he lives inside of  you so why would you put junk inside of it? 1 Corinthians 6:20 says, "You were bought with a price. So then, honor God and bring glory to him in your body."

Eating right, getting enough sleep and getting rid of stressful situations in your life are one of the most important habits to work on.  Creating a healthy habit should be one of the first things (besides building a personal relationship with God) you should do. When it comes to eating right, we must learn how to read labels and understand what we put into our body. Joyce Meyer explains that even though you may start out not liking some of the things you will need to do, eventually, you will become accustomed to them and you will crave them as much as you now dislike them. For example, if you hate to exercise, do it often enough where your body can't go a day without working out.

"Our bodies are not really all that intelligent. They just crave what we repeatedly give them. If it's bad, they will want what is bad, and if it's good, they will want that."

Getting rid of stress is something really important. Worry, anxiety and fear are major stresses, and we can eliminate them by trusting God and casting our care on him. Joyce Meyer explains that too much stress produces too much cortisol in our bodies and it's dangerous. If you do not know what cortisol is, I highly suggest that you look it up! Think of a few things that cause stress in your life and make the decision to get rid of them TODAY!

Getting enough sleep is another healthy habit to form. We should be getting 8 hours of sleep a night. So many people use the term "I'll sleep when I'm dead" or "They sleep, we grind" a lot and we need to understand that not getting enough sleep can shorten our lives and our brains do not function properly with limited sleep. Also, our bodies become unable to fight diseases when we don't get a lot of  sleep. It is commanded by the word of God that we get some rest. If it is your mission to honor God, GET YOUR REST ;-).

The book gives us 7 Pillars for good health so I recommend that you get this book and start reading TODAY. Also, I recommend that you get Joyce Meyers book "Look Great, Feel Great." I'm going to purchase that book myself and start posting health blogs about the book soon.

-Markesha xoxo

Making Good Habits, Breaking Bad Habits Chapter 6

"He (God) expects us to follow his word, his spirit, and his wisdom If we don't have peace about something, or it would not be wise to do it, then we should not do it."

                                                                                      -Joyce Meyer

Chapter 6 discusses being decisive. There are 3 types of decision makers: one who makes decisions too quickly, one who takes way too long to make a decision and the other person is one who doesn't make a decision at all. I would like to break down each category:

The Quick Decision Maker: One who really doesn't think about the pros and cons. Their decisions are rushed which sometimes leads to failure. I would highly suggest that if you are the quick decision maker, start asking God first as to what your option should be.....especially if the decision you are trying to make is a spiritual one.

The Slow Decision Maker: One who takes way too long to make a decision. The longer you take to make a decision, the more you are procrastinating on your task. As I advised the quick decision maker, as God what you should do. Joyce Meyer stated in her book "If after prayer and waiting we still feel that we have no direction, then it may mean that God is simply giving us the freedom to make our own choice." If the decision we made was a bad one, we can modify it as we go along.

The NO decision Maker: This individual makes no decisions at all. This person is usually miserable. I personally feel terrible when I don't make any kind of decisions. In Chapter 6, Joyce Meyer gives us reasons that a person may not make a decision at all. One of the reasons being is that person may be insecure about themselves and their abilities. Being insecure and scared is nothing but Satan. We must remember that if we have faith in God, we can do all things with his help. There are 4 others reasons why a person would be indecisive but I rather have you guys read the book ;-)

Joyce Meyer gives us instructions on how to make decisions: Make a list of your options, Weight the possible outcome and Acknowledge God. Here's a quote from her book that I am going to apply to my everyday life

"We should never make our plans and then pray for God to bless them. We should pray before any planning takes place. If the true desire of your heart is to follow God in all things, he will let you know one way or another if you are doing the right thing."

-Markesha xoxo

How Many Of Us Have Them.......FRIENDS!

"Encourage, lift and strengthen one another. For the positive energy spread to one will be felt by us all. For we are connected, one and all."

                                                                                            -Deborah Day


When you look up the word "friend" in the dictionary, you will find that the meaning of a friend is one who supports, sympathizes with, or patronizes a group or movement. A person whom one knows, likes and trusts. Noticed how I put the word "support" in bold print. Lets discuss being supportive friends.

When being involved with a person as a friend, family member or as a relationship, you are agreeing to support one another. That is something that I see lacking in friendships nowadays. Let's look at one example:

Rhonda is working on her career as a painter. She asked her friend Laura to come look at some of her paintings at her home, come to an art event for support and to promote her art to her friends. Laura is too "busy" to come look at her friend Rhondas paintings and has not showed up to an event; however, Laura is now working on her career in Journalism and expects Rhonda to support her all the way.

Why do we as "friends" expect so much from each other but don't do anything to support one another? There's a saying "You scratch my back, I'll scratch yours." I definitely believe in that statement. We must be willing to take a little time out of our busy lives to support one another in a positive way. Now, if you don't like what your friend is doing or if there is something that your friend could do better, be honest with them. That's what friends are for right?

Starting today, I want you all to say something nice or do something out of love for your friends. A little goes a long way. Encouragement, compliments, honesty and being reliable can make someones day a whole lot better. If you find yourself not doing any of these for a friend, you may want to make a slight change. Love your friends, go support.

-Markesha xoxo