Worry About Nothing

"But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own."

                                                                                                  -Matthew 6:33-34


Now, this post isn't for everyone as I know there are people out there who do not believe that there is a God so I apologize in advance if this blog offends you; however, I felt as if I needed to post this so people who are going through something can at least have a piece of mind knowing that they are not the only ones who go through storms.

When it rains, it pours. A lot of us say that when we go through problems in life. Too many of us worry about the problems in our lives that's simply out of our control. But us being humans, we always try to figure things out on our own. The thing that we forget to do when the world seems like it's out to get us is run to God.

Worry about nothing. Instead, pray about everything. These are the words I said to myself this morning. Sometimes, the battle we face in life is not ours.....it belongs to God. We have to ask God to handle our battles and have faith to know that everything will be alright. God is bigger than any problems, sickness and disease. He is the author and the finisher. He is a miracle worker and we can all things through Christ who gives us strength. We need to stop worrying about things that are out of our control. God has our backs! Everything we go through in life has a purpose. God is trying to tell us something......one of the things he is trying to say is "trust me".

When we pray, and we give our worries to God, we should automatically be at peace. If you trust him with all of your heart, you should know that he will not give you something that you can't handle. There was a quote that I saw on a social network that said "God gives his toughest battles to his strongest soldiers." So I ask, what are you worried about?

I found a bookmark inside one of my grandmothers Bibles (Rest in Peace) and it says "How to use the Bible". It gives you scriptures to look up whenever you are going through something so I would like to share these with you so you can add them to your daily lives:

When in sorrow: Read John 14
When men fail you: Read Psalm 27
When you have sinned: Read Psalm 51
When you worry: Read Matthew 6:19-34
When you are in danger: Read Psalm 91
If you have the blues: Read Psalm 34
When God seems far away: Read Psalm 139
If you are discouraged: Read Isaiah 40
If you are lonely or fearful: Read Psalm 23
If you feel down and out: Read Romans 8:39
When you want courage for your task: Read Joshua 1
When the world seems bigger than God: Read Psalm 90
When you want rest and peace: Read Matthew 11:25-30
When leaving home for labor or travel: Read Psalm 107:23-31
If you get bitter or critical: Read 1st Corinthians 13
If thinking of investments and returns: Read Mark 10:17-31
For a great invitation--a great opportunity: Read Isaiah 55

I hope this blog helps someone out there who feel as if they can't handle any more stress. Remember, when in trouble, pray.

-Markesha xoxo

The OTHER woman

There are plenty of ladies out there who play the role as the OTHER woman. Meaning, she is considered the "booty call" or "the side chick". Always second, never first. She doesn't get to spend holidays with the guy, share meaningful moments with him or meet his family. Some women like the title, others don't.

The ladies who like being the OTHER woman have a few reasons as to why (I got these answers from REAL people so please don't be upset with me): 1) They don't like the emotional attachment, 2) They are getting money from the man so as long as he is paying, they don't mind being a secret and 3) They like the "thrill" of being kept quiet.

Now, the ladies who have tried being the OTHER woman did not like it for the following reasons: 1) They got caught and their reputation was ruined, 2) They started catching feelings and the man did not feel the same way and 3) They were tired of being alone most of the time.

In my opinion, I think being the OTHER woman would be tough and would not work for me because I'm an affectionate person. When I start to love someone, I love hard and I want to tell the world about the person who has stolen my heart. I want that person to do the same for me and if he can't, he's out the door. I had a friend who was still in love with an ex boyfriend from Junior High. They ran into each other again when they were adults. This time, the ex boyfriend was married and had two children. He claimed to be "unhappily" married. He asked my friend out on a date and she accepted.....BIG MISTAKE!

One date turned into two dates. Two dates turned into him coming over. Him coming over turned into them making love. Them making love turned into him staying the night sometimes and telling his wife that he slept over his "brothers" house. She told me that on Sundays, she was not allowed to text him because Sundays were considered family day. She would anxiously wait until Monday to text or call him again. After 6pm on the weekdays, she could not text or contact him anymore because he would be at home with his family.

Everybody at her ex boyfriends job knew who my friend was. She even went out to eat with her ex and his employees at times. The ex boyfriend started planning his divorce with my friend........but his plans started to take too long to go into effect. My friend started to get impatient the more she started falling back in love with him. To make the long story short, my friend finally decided to stop talking to him. He's still married, claims he's "in love" with his wife and living happily ever after.

You're probably wondering where I am going with this. What I am trying to say is that it does not pay to be the other woman. You can either be someones priority, or someones mistake. KNOW YOUR WORTH!!!! Don't let someone disrespect you. Everybody deserves to be loved.......but to be someones 2nd option is not love sweetie. Think about it.......would the relationship REALLY work? Could you REALLY see yourself being put away and being wanted whenever HE felt like he wanted you? For those who are in that type of relationship, think about what's going to happen in the future. If you are willing to get your heart broken, go ahead. But know this; usually, the back burner girls usually don't get moved to the front. And if they do (which sometimes it happens), what makes you think he won't leave you for someone else? I hope this helps someone out there. Feel free to leave a comment or question below. I want to know what others think ;-)

-Markesha xoxo

Can men and women just be FRIENDS?

Hello Lovers,

So, a friend of mine asked me can a man and woman be friends without being sexual. My answer of course was yes.......but I would like to ask everyone else that same question. Is it possible? Do you have thoughts in your mind being intimate with this "friend" of yours? Can you resist temptation?

When I asked that same question to a friend of mine, he basically told me no......unless they were physically active before, the sex was not good so they did not think that a relationship in the future would be so they just stayed friends. Usually, the first thing that attracts us to the opposite sex is their looks. After that, it's their personality. With that being said, if the first thing you notice about a person is their appearance, could you possibly be that attractive persons friend? I personally have male attractive friends and I look at them as FRIENDS ONLY!  Nothing more........nothing less. How I see it, if that attractive guy friend of mines tries to pursue something other than a friendship, I would have to look at the pros and cons because if our intimacy is horrible, that would make the friendship awkward. If the intimacy is awesome, someone is bound to catch feelings and if one person doesn't feel the same way the other person does, the friendship again......is awkward or most likely over.

I would like to get every ones opinion on this topic. What do you think? Leave your comments below. I would like to get some feedback ;-)

-Markesha xoxo

A Tiger Who Has Earned Her Stripes

Many women look at their stretch marks as something ugly. In my opinion, stretch marks tell a story. Almost every woman has them, yet they try their best to hide them by adding body spray paint, using stretch mark cream or even googling ways to get them surgically removed (I heard of people trying to get that done). I'm not saying to flaunt those marks out in the open, but remember where they came from.

I have real tiny stretch marks on my waist. They are barely noticable to others, but since it's my body, I notice them every day. I used to be upset about them because when I was younger, I had a flawless body. Once I hit the age of 21, my flawless body became flawed. I tried stretch mark fade creams and home remedies. They faded a little bit......but I wasn't consistent with using the products. There I was, upset again.

I finally sat down and said to myself "You should be proud of your marks because they tell an amazing story, the story of motherhood". I became pregnant at the age of 20. On my 21st birthday, I gave birth to the most precious gift God could ever bless me with, my daughter. She has been such a blessing in my life and she has changed my way of thinking. The things I used to do, I no longer do because I have a responsibility.......my princess. My stretch marks represent signs of growth, progression, strength and parenthood. So if you ask me, I wouldn't try to get rid of my stretch marks.

Next time you look in the mirror and notice those stretch marks, don't be sad or upset. Think of them as stories that you haven't told the world. Just like fingerprints, your stretch marks are different and unique. You are a Tiger who has earned her stripes.

-Markesha xoxo

Aint nothin to it, but to do it!

So many of us have dreams of becoming successful; however, not a lot of people start the process of getting to that dream. Not trying to do what you love will result in working for someone else, making someone else rich and being unhappy. I "was" one of those people. Not working on doing what I love doing (Which is radio) and eventually, I was so unhappy with how my life was going. Working a regular 9 to 5, making someone else wealthy and dealing with stress. You never know what you can accomplish until you try. There's no harm in trying so what do you have to lose?

One of the reasons why people don't follow their dreams is because they are too scared of rejection. Understand this, there's no success without failure! We all had doors of opportunity slammed in our faces one time but there is a door of achievement waiting for you.......you have to learn how to be patient.

I'll admit, I'm slightly impatient. When I want something, I want it now. When you have that type of attitude, you will end up angry and want to give up. When you get rejected or you don't get the result you wanted, keep going and learn from your mistakes. There's an old saying "You need to crawl before you walk." Well, keep crawling and eventually, you'll be walking down the isle of success. Every failure that comes your way is a lesson......so like I said, LEARN from it. You have worked too hard and gotten so far to give up now. Keep pushin baby!!!! A change is going to come!

Another saying that I have heard in the past is "Good things come to people who wait." That is true......to a certain extent. If you are trying to start a business, become an artist, ect, you must work! Good things come to people who WORK! Sitting around waiting for something to happen is not going to get you nowhere. We all must have a "motivated" state of mind. When you wake up in the morning, after you pray, say to yourself "I am one step closer to my dreams". Keep saying that and you WILL get there. Sure, it might take days, weeks, months and even years to get to your final destination but once you do, it will feel great. Ask any successful person out there right now if they reached success overnight and they will tell you no. P. Diddy, Ludacris, Michael Jackson (R.I.P.), Oprah Winfrey, ect had to work hard to get what they wanted. And now, they are at the top.

In conclusion, I want to say this.......you can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens you (Phillipians 4:13). Walk by faith, not by sight (2nd Corinthians 5:7) and most importantly, while you are on that road to success, make sure that you learn things along the way. That way, when you have became successful, you'll have a story to share with others who are trying to get to where you're going. Hope this was a blessing to you......as it was for me.

-Markesha xoxo

Don't stay......just leave

There are tons of people who stay in a relationship for all of the wrong reasons. In the beginning of the relationship, all is well. But when you finally get to know that individual, they are not who you thought they were and then you become unhappy. You try to leave but the thought of hurting the other person breaks your heart. What do you do? Do you run away, or do you stay to avoid the other person from experiencing heartache? Let me answer that question for you.......LEAVE!

My reason for saying that is because in the end, the relationship with hurt the both of you. It will hurt you because you're simply not happy. Then it will hurt the other person because once they find out that you are no longer in love with them, they become upset and heartbroken. There's no worse feeling than loving someone who doesn't love you back. That individual could move on and eventually find someone who completes them but if you hold on to something that simply isn't there, you are wasting both of ya'lls time. And we all know that you can never go back in time......life is too short to waste it with someone who you do not care for.

Breaking up with someone is not easy, but it must be done. Break it down to that person nicely. It doesn't have to be a dramatic breakup. Be 100% honest. They may not like what you have to say but at least you will have a peace of mind and you will not end the relationship with a lie. Like I have said before, you have to do things to make YOU happy! Live life to the fullest. We only live once so do what you love and love who you want......don't waste anybody's time.

-Markesha xoxo