The Fear Is Real

Many of us will miss out on so much in life because of these 3 reasons:

1. We are stubborn
2. We hold things back
3. We are afraid of what others might think or say

I'll be honest with you guys, I have missed out on a few great opportunities because I simply did not say what was on my heart. The fear of rejection kills me. This is something that I am working on. If you guys are confused on what I'm saying, here's a scenario:

Diana and Robert have been friends for a very long time. They feel as if they can tell each other anything. One day, Robert tells Diana that he feels empty at times. He's tired of being lonely and wishes that he had a significant other to build with. Someone to love, someone to start a family with. Diana has strong feelings for Robert but her fear of rejection is getting in the way of her expressing how she feels. Since Diana said nothing, Robert felt that she did not feel the same way. To make the long story short, Robert eventually found someone and it broke Diana's heart. If only she would have told him what's on her mind.....

We only live once. Why do we hold on to fear for so long to the point where it gets the best of us? Why are we so stuck in our ways? It's time for us to start sharing our feelings and not be afraid of what other people will say. If someone rejects you, you learn from it and move on. We won't know until we try right? Here is another scenario of what happens when we hold things back:

Tom and Lisa were in a relationship. Due to communication issues, the relationship fell apart. If something was bothering Lisa, she would hold it in until she got so upset, she exploded in anger. Tom was the same. You can tell that they clearly loved each other but their lack of communication kept them separated. They both love each other so much and they want to be back together, but here comes fear again. They are afraid of rejection.

I dare you guys to speak up and say something that has been on your mind to someone. I promise you that it will make you feel a whole lot better. Holding things in is like having too much air in a balloon, you'll eventually pop. Can you honestly say that you feel good when you hold your feelings back? I can't. I feel crummy when I do it. So from now on, I'm going to let go of fear and go after what I want. It doesn't have to be a relationship, it can be anything. A job, career, trying new things, trying new food. Go out there and live life. Don't let fear get in the way of anything. I hope this blog is a blessing to you as it is for me writing it. Much love <3.

-Markesha xoxo